I was a pretty self-centered kid (as most of us are, developmentally) until I went through some things that made me expand my own horizons surrounding how I judge/don't judge other people. It's good to remember that we're all trying our best out here.
The true kind that isn't performative or uptight. How they treat people who have nothing to 'give' them. How they argue. How they accept or give apologies. People that lean in when someone is describing the things they love, but can stand up strong on their ideals if someone is being hurtful. Takes time to understand others and meets everyone with an open mind. Has a sense of humor but not purely for gossip or teasing. Golden Rule type shit. The world is hard, I'm attracted to anyone who tries to make life easier to stomach for themselves and those around them.
been trying to actively remind myself lately that being sick is simply a transient state, not a marker of a personality defect; some kind of weakness in others that caused them be chronically down. nor will it necessarily spread itself to me, so I have nothing to gain from avoiding these people. admitting to yourself your own prejudices will only benefit the world around you!
I just love a Little Guy tbh. Smiski are small (usually green) Japanese toy figurines sold in blind boxes. And they glow in the dark! I have three (...so far...) and I'm obsessed with them.