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Since Iāve been here I've been leaving everything everywhere and thereās a pile of laundry in the corner and I have just step over my suitcase every time I walk in but idk thereās something about being able to make messes sometimes that reminds me I can come back and be different but be the same which is a beautiful thing
Jan 16, 2025
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iām moving out soon and iāve been in a giant empty house all summer and it has successfully driven me insane multiple times, and iām still in the process of throwing things out day by day so every day the space iāve known for three years is only getting emptier
so i started leaving clean laundry in a little pile, unread new yorkers in a different pile, a stuffed animal to be put in vacuum bag but rn just sits on top of an opened and packed suitcase full of stuff, a bag of things to be thrown out right besides my bed, and iām proud to say that my room has never looked messier
this is the one time that iām sure somehow the mess is helping my mental health instead of making it worse
Oct 21, 2024
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putting things back where they belong before you leave rather than leaving it for when you come back
this is a recent trick iāve adopted, and itās made it so much easier to keep things organized. which makes my brain feel lighter.
probably has something to do with the fact that if youāve put cleaning off once, youāre more likely to again. also itās just disrupting to come home to a messy room. so welcoming when clean!
(huge fan of the word girlsqualor tho)
May 24, 2024
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I was tragically born with a terminal case of cantkeepmyroomcleanitis. Itās very common disease among smart, charming, funny, fabulous women. No matter how much my mom pleaded with me to clean my room with a weekās advance notice before guests came over I still found myself, day of the party, frantically shoving all of my belongs under the bed.
Itās been a real source of shame for me throughout childhood and into adulthood. I wouldnāt let people into my room and it was worsened by depressive spells. There was a tiktok trend where girls were sharing their āmessyā bedrooms and itās the most coquettish unmade bed one dress on the floor ass bedroom and theyāre like āgirl mess<3ā ā¦ Iām likeā¦ my room looks like Iām constantly pissing off a vengeful god and everyday I come home to total ruinā¦ we are NOT the same!!!!Ā
A couple years ago my brother gave me some mushrooms and I was a little worried that having a totally disgusting room might send me down a spiral but two hours later Iām laying in bed laughing laughing laughing saying āoh my god I live in a swamp a beautiful beautiful swampā. Then I went outside, sat in the grass, and listened to Panda Bearās Person Pitch 7 times in a row. After that I felt less embarrassment about being so messy because it became so funny to me. Maybe this is actually a rec for mushrooms.
Anywaysā¦ I started letting people into my room even when it was in shambles. It didnāt cure me of my slobbery but once I stopped trying to hide my mess under my bed (literally and figuratively) it became easier to manage. In the past I would watch vid after vid of How to Be Organized trying to rectify what felt like a moral failure and if I could just find the right system or spend another $40 at the Container Store I would fix myself. Right now Iām focused on fine tuning. I make my bed everyday even if thereās more clothes on the ground than visible floorboard. I set a timer for 10 minutes and clean. Sometimes Iāll keep cleaning after the time is up and other times thatās all Iām capable of that day. Idk Iām just generally being more patient with myself.
tl;dr: itās okay to be messy :P (but also absolutely would love recs from former slobs lol)
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