If there’s one thing I’ve learned from therapy it is to practice delay If you feel the anxiety bubble up that’s prompting you to react, wait 10-15 minutes. If you feel the need to say something or make a decision, hit pause and wait it out. Sometimes I forget to delay but every time I remember to, I’m always glad I did.
Control your reaction. Re-assess your outlook. Compose your thoughts. Giving yourself a moment to think through whatever situation is in front of you can make a big difference and will let you be a calmer person overtime.
When you're anxious, sad, happy, remember to breathe and take it in. Move slowly and intentionally. Speak with kindness and take pause and really listen. This is mostly a note to self because, damn girl, why are you always in a rush when there is no emergency
This year has been tough as I’ve been working on myself. the biggest thing I struggle with is patience. I’ve noticed that we react so quickly sometimes, good or bad, instead of processing things and having a clear idea. With me, I noticed when someone is learning something new, I get impatient and want to tell them how to do it versus letting them figure it out. Ive felt and noticed that I’m rushing too much. To get to work, to go home, to get ready, to go to the gym, to finish a task, etc. I don’t take in the day or smell the flowers. I don’t let time remain as is because I am trying my best to get so much done before the sun goes down. Over the past 5 months, I started to change my pace. I timed my days better to allow me to take in more details. I noticed things clearly for what they were and not shrugging them off as usual. I’m still learning and practicing a slower pace. I remain in my bubble, but aware of my actions and thoughts. Aware of when my patience becomes non existent and when it’s not enough. And no matter where I go or who I’m with, I remind myself: be patient.
…not ☹️.
For whatever reason I keep posting and then deleting my recs immediately. I’ve gotten shy on here. I used to be so bold. I don’t know what happened !!!
I’m currently in the back seat of my friend’s car listening to their future plans. It’s lowkey terrifying me. However….take this as your sign that you don’t have to know what you want. You’re not alone!!!
