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should i drop everything and move to nyc? should i go to the club tonight with friends and kiss a stranger? should i pretend like everyone is in love with me?
Jan 27, 2025
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š„Just do it. If youāre in New York thereās so many models I donāt understand why you wouldnāt find a nice one and just settle down. Also people stare at you and say things like ābeautiful coupleā all the time, it is cool!
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š¤·i know that doesnāt really make sense, so let me explain!
if you love books, find a bookstore, wander around, and donāt be afraid to approach someone firstāchances are the person you approached and yourself already have something in common.
if you want to have a romantic cafe encounter, go to a cafe and just start chatting to strangers! you like the barista? flirt a little and slide your number to him written on a napkin. (always have a pen on youāasking people to put their number in your phone is an awkward exchange. you want the mystery of sliding your number over, then disappearing with a final wink. and donāt wait on someone to text you back, it might not happen so flirt around!!)
you want a partner who might be a bit of an aristocrat? hang out in the places they may congregateāgolf courses, beach clubs, that kind of thingāand doll up. just start chatting! honestly, we live in a world where people donāt approach strangers anymore, so you need to be the change you want to see.
or you even like musicians? go hang out in music lounges!!!
donāt go to places that make you feel very uncomfortable or hold the characteristics of a partner you donāt want. if you hate clubbing, donāt go to a club and hope to find your future partnerābecause that might already be a glimpse into the future of your relationship.
anyways, i hope that makes sense. but honestly, if you feel confident in yourself, it makes approaching strangers so much easier. (who knows, you might even be the one approached.) so serve yourself first. get yourself in a good mental place before getting into the dating scene.
if you love books, find a bookstore, wander around, and donāt be afraid to approach someone firstāchances are the person you approached and yourself already have something in common.
if you want to have a romantic cafe encounter, go to a cafe and just start chatting to strangers! you like the barista? flirt a little and slide your number to him written on a napkin. (always have a pen on youāasking people to put their number in your phone is an awkward exchange. you want the mystery of sliding your number over, then disappearing with a final wink. and donāt wait on someone to text you back, it might not happen so flirt around!!)
you want a partner who might be a bit of an aristocrat? hang out in the places they may congregateāgolf courses, beach clubs, that kind of thingāand doll up. just start chatting! honestly, we live in a world where people donāt approach strangers anymore, so you need to be the change you want to see.
or you even like musicians? go hang out in music lounges!!!
donāt go to places that make you feel very uncomfortable or hold the characteristics of a partner you donāt want. if you hate clubbing, donāt go to a club and hope to find your future partnerābecause that might already be a glimpse into the future of your relationship.
anyways, i hope that makes sense. but honestly, if you feel confident in yourself, it makes approaching strangers so much easier. (who knows, you might even be the one approached.) so serve yourself first. get yourself in a good mental place before getting into the dating scene.
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ādownloaded dating apps again after being asked for the millionth time why i'm not seeing anyone right now ... created my profile, swiped, and deleted everything within 24 hours .. again. why is everyone in such a rush to find that kind of connection? if i want a date night i'll call my friends. if i want mind-blowing physical satisfaction i'll put on a cate blanchett movie and do it myself. i just ordered a bundle of my favorite (terrible) (perfect) 1970s gothic romance novels to fufill my romantic dialogue needs... anywayssss have been feeling very content with my little life thank you to this piece (linked!!!) for validating all kinds of intimacy not just 'the one'
Feb 21, 2024
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