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Brushing your hair

Taking care of yourself can feel hideously step-by-step now… scientific and ingredient-laden.  Brushing your hair still feels whimsical and wild! It’s genuinely a therapeutic process for me, I think because I have a lot of hair and untangling it sometimes requires brute force and since there is a clear before and after to behold, it always makes me feel better if I’m feeling low. There’s a lot of propaganda around messy hair (Chloe S., French women), but life is about getting to know yourself. So if you’re feeling burnt out on cold little serums and vials of goo (all love though) or are tired of letting the rats' nests rule, try brushing your hair more. Caveat that you need to find the hair brush that works for you—doesn’t have to be made of boar bristles and mother of pearl,I like the OG brush from Olivia Garden over at Ulta.

@biz-sherbert

Mar 27, 2023

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2b/c hair tips

satin hair bonnets at night - reducing friction while you sleep minimises so much frizz if you don't already use one i recommend. they're not too expensive I don't think ?!? shampoo every second wash, co-wash every other wash. I also have a conditioner that i use to wash with, and then a separate leave-in conditioner that has a lighter texture so that my curls don't get weighed down (keeps my hair nice and voluminous). I sometimes dilute my conditioner with water if i feel that it's too heavy. i also wash my hair very sparingly, only when it gets greasy. this might depend on your hair so probably not super useful, but for me, i find that the longer i am able stretch hair washes the better my hair is for it because my hair tends to be on the dry side and wetting it makes it more brittle and dry and more prone to frizz up. especially when i do shampoo washes, as shampoo completely strips my hair and scalp :( No heat if you can help it also this is probably a cringe point to end on but i've found that learning to love the messy nature of my hair has been life changing. figuring out that frizz is not inherently bad has reduced my anxiety around my hair so much and i feel really confident about my hair most days and it's not because i'm using any particularly fancy products. that and i've also found a hair dresser who knows how to cut for my specific hair texture !!!!

@agnesfarta

Mar 23, 2025

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HAIR HEALTH

I used to be a blunt cut bob girlie but have changed my ways the last two years, Protein & Moisture; super important, these two helped w strength & retention protein treatment every 6 weeks followed by deep conditioner same day, hair mask once a week (something w NO protein!! just moisturizing) Reducing heat and manipulation; heat style twice a week maximum if you can help it with the help of good heat protection (NO OIL PROTECTANTS!!! Kenra professional has my fave products - the blow out spray is amazing & worth its price) use sleep styles to protect your hair (im curly but do a blowout once a week- I maintain it by using a oversized pillow scrunchie at the top of my head pineapple style and my hair wrapped around the actual scrunchie- play around with it & how you sleep + how you want it styled in the morning + make sure that your hairline isn’t getting tugged around) itll prevent damage from heat constantly, friction from sleeping and i promise will make mornings way easier. Scalp care: Rosemary oil will be your best friend!! Studies came out that it’s similar to 2.5% minoxidil - which is a OTC hair loss treatment. Mix oil of choice w dried rosemary (add dried buckroot & mint if you wanna get fancy, olive oil and jojoba havent steered me wrong yet!!) I like to do a cold infusion which can take two weeks but it’s cheaper and I know what’s going on my scalp. Put it on your scalp and massage for a few minutes, leave on for a few hours but if you want you can overnight, use a clarifying shampoo & follow up with protein/moisture depending on where you are in the cycle! Taking care of my scalp, reducing hair & tbh- taking a solid multivitamin helped me a lot! Products I luvvvvv; Kendra Blowout Spray Kendra Blowout Lotion Rosemary oil DIY Satin pillowcase & oversized scrunchie (you can find these on Amazon or Ulta! They will be life changers….) Also- silk/satin scrunchies over regular hair ties, try to avoid any tension :)

@persephones

Feb 21, 2024

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Starting over

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.” — Anaïs Nin This is uncharacteristically raw and personal, even for me, and pretty heavy! I know many of you have seen me posting through it and I feel safe to talk about it openly now that I’ve safely landed at the start of my new life. It’s honestly even a little bit embarrassing but I think it’s important to share. I’ve never publicly mentioned it on here, but I have a husband; as of Friday, we’d have been together for 11 years, and we’ve been married for 3 years as of 2/22. I realize now that I wanted to explore what I looked like outside of my relationship with him because I had lost that. This is why PI.FYI has been so meaningful to me as a space to express myself and connect with people—to rediscover my voice. I had been living a lie this entire time, to others but worst of all to myself. He’s been verbally and emotionally abusive, physically but without touching me, to the point that every day I spent with him I was in danger. I’ve been shrinking myself and walking on eggshells to avoid making him insecure and provoking his casual put-downs and fits of rage, while hanging on for dear life to the threads of good I could see. I’ve wanted so badly to leave, more than anything, but I felt like there was no way out and that this was just something I would need to endure indefinitely—but someone who is so very dear to me helped me see that I have wings to fly, not by acting as my savior but by reminding me of my own power. The emotional safety they built and the gentle care they showed me made me feel like I could open up to them. With their encouragement I was brave enough to tell the truth to my friends, my family, my boss, and they have received me with warm, loving and open arms and rallied to support and protect me. The financial and  logistical aspects were the most intimidating to me and it’s going to be tough for a while but I’m going to be better than okay! Now I’m opening up to you. This isn’t the only abuse I’ve suffered in my life, and my old therapist told me she believed it was my mission to share my strength and light with others to inspire them and show them that change is possible. I hope that by sharing this, I can reach even just one person who is going through something similar and show that they are not alone, and they are not weak. People with certain backgrounds may be more vulnerable to abuse, but it can happen to anyone. It thrives in darkness, shame, and isolation—and breaking that silence is the first step toward freedom. Leaving is the scariest thing I have ever done but I have so many angels around me, and I am endlessly grateful. Thank you for being here with me 💌

@taterhole

Mar 16, 2025

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Never changing

My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌

@taterhole

Feb 23, 2025

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Finally Quitting the job that you hate

Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ✅💅

@taterhole

Feb 27, 2025