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I’m not the best at sparking conversations when I’m in a loud room. It sort of makes my brain glitch and i cant think of a single thing to talk about. so, when I’m out with friends, it’s always nice to go to places that have activities.
This place had huge sheets of paper and crayons. we were LAUGHING so hard at our horrendous doodles, and it got the night rolling a lot easier. Also they had free popcorn hell yeah.
Feb 16, 2025
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TLDR: Get out of your apartment, get a cheap drink *if you want*, and meet people in your community through a structured activity!!! A perfect recipe for getting out of your comfort zone while not being too overwhelmed about it!
*Disclaimer: If you’re sober but still enjoy the vibe and are comfortable being around booze, I swear to you I would never notice if you had a NA bev or never drank anything and I don’t think anyone else would either, nor would they care if they did catch on*
But I‘ve been doing bar trivia for almost 2 years now and it’s SO much fun, especially when you have a good host and you’re in a group that cares enough to try but not enough to get too hung up on getting things wrong. We mostly yap between questions/rounds and the hosts have always loved us. We‘ve moved around because places have closed and/or our schedules changed and we needed a different night of the week. But going to different places with different vibes has helped with my social anxiety SO much like I’m much more confident with interacting with different types of people now and much less worried that they’re not going to like me. Sometimes other trivia teams haven’t liked us but we’ve learned to be like “so what?” and just keep vibing bc we’re not hurting anyone. And when we get questions that feel tailor-made for us, like when it has to do with our homestates or hometowns (we’re all transplants) or with our special interests, we get a high we can ride the rest of the week.
And KARAOKE is the BEST! You get to do whatever song you want, and it is more fun to do one that gets the crowd going, but also if I wanna do a country song I’m nostalgic for but no one else knows, screw y’all I’m gonna enjoy my 3 minutes and give you a show. Also, there’s some regulars but also always some wildcards which keeps it interesting, like last week a huge NJ dude who may have been a mobster and who put his name down as Bonesaw, pulled me up to two-step with him to an old country song. Where else are you gonna get that sort of experience? And these wildcards can surprise you, like when these drunk cishet sorority girls pulled my friend (who’s a trans woman) up to sing man I feel like a woman with them a couple months ago! Highlight of the night 1000000%
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Arguably the most consistent way to hang out with friends at least once a week. So many venues have them. Activity! Camaraderie! And you usually learn something.
Thursday is the best night for this, I think. Gives you something to look forward to other than the weekend.
Jan 25, 2024
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or any game night for that matter!
i love an excuse to double down on wrong answers or have all eyes on me when i crush charades.
trivia nights are scheduled fun at bars you love with friends you can argue with. there are few things as good as this.
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Apr 16, 2025
It’s incredible how many people genuinely think they are boring. There have been so many times I’ve spoken with people and they confess that they think that they haven’t done much with their life, or that they don’t have much interesting to talk about, but it’s almost never the case.
From what I can tell, it’s often caused by a lack of knowing thyself. Or maybe a low self esteem? I’ve been through it too, and it is so so not true for anyone.
You’ve done so much living. Why do you feel like your story is not worth telling? I know you’ve gone through some crazy shit once or twice. if you really haven’t, what’s stopping you from getting out there and creating stories to talk about? Start small! go to a coffee shop once a week. See if they have any clubs to join, and try that out! you’ll be making memories in NO TIME.
If you have trouble finding meaningful/fun conversation, just remember that the effort must flow both ways. You are merely just working with what the other person is providing you, and if they aren’t giving you anything to work with, it’s not your fault. You aren’t boring, you are just around people who dont vibe with you. And that’s okay! Not every person is going to be your specific kind of person. Plus, if you aren’t having fun talking to them, why does it matter if they like you? the much cooler people who value your input are just around the corner. I promise.
One day you’ll be able to shine your beautiful personality on someone who is equally as bright you are, you magnificent comet, you.
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