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You don’t have to love what you’re doing, just love you

Sometimes you won’t love the task you’re doing— you won’t feel that impulse toward it that makes forming a new habit easier or more enjoyable, and that’s hard. If it helps, reframe it as love of your future self— when you get out of bed and make the bed, this is an act of love from your morning to your evening— a fresh bed, and a body that has moved around. When you delete your apps (which is legitimately hard, and designed to feel difficult) you are gifting yourself attention— the apps want your attention because it is valuable! Your time, your energy, your feeling and softness, is valuable— choosing to give it to a future version of yourself, a person who has new skills, or a more developed hobby, because you were doing the hardest, earliest work of dedicating your time. Try starting with two things: get out of bed and make it, and drink a glass of water. If you take vitamins or pills, creating a morning habit out of drinking water is good. If not, it’s still good to hydrate! And making your bed will make it easier to stay out of bed.

@nadiyaelyse

Feb 19, 2025

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Listen to your body and trust a routine

I’ve had periods where I’ve really struggled with this too. Before I give my rec, I want to emphasize that I think we all experience cycles in our behavior where we “make progress” (whatever that means for you!) and then we don’t - and that’s really okay. I would start by figuring out if your body is physically okay. Lethargy/fatigue is a biological response to a lot of different things and it may be the result of unexpected health stuff! So don’t discount a doctor’s visit. But mental health/stress really contributes to this for me, and it is often the biggest thing that breaks my healthy routines. This is where the loop comes in: healthy routines combat stress, but stress breaks up healthy routines. So that first day you start the healthy routine cycle is really important! For me healthy routines start with good sleep hygiene. If you’ve been rotting in bed a lot and your sleep cycle is screwed, re-establishing that may be difficult. I would recommend supplementing your body with physical movement - preferably something rigorous (for your level) but also gives you joy!! No boring gym time - do whatever gives you endorphins. Consistent activity is really key for your body to not fall into a doom loop. And lastly, do the things you need to do to combat your stress. Set yourself up so that you feel you are taking meaningful steps towards progress. Start with the small stuff and don’t discount them!!! Often the small tasks are the ones that break us because they seem innumerable (for me it’s always been folding laundry). But just remember, every small thing you do is progress and that will build your momentum. I believe in ya! You have the power to change this, slowly but surely.

@nadster

May 13, 2024

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Start small, be gracious with yourself

Start small, be gracious— I think the two ways that we often kill routines or goals is that we start where we want to end (ex, ‘I will run a marathon this year’ instead of ‘I will go for a run once a week’), and we get discouraged by setbacks, or see them as final. Start with a keystone habit— like making the bed every morning, or putting coffee on. Making the bed makes it easier to stay out of bed during the day, and putting coffee on can anchor your breakfast routine. If you drink tea, maybe fill your kettle and put a teabag in your favorite mug at night, so it’s ready in the morning. If your goal is building a routine, try setting three alarms: one in the morning, one at midday, and one in the early evening. This is a good way to be aware of time and break your day into segments.

@nadiyaelyse

Feb 18, 2025

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springtime

recommending this to God

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Feb 28, 2025

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opening ur windows

Air out Ur home! Enjoy the sounds of the street! Spring is coming!

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Mar 11, 2025

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opening a banana from the bottom

I too want to contribute to banana discourse

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Feb 11, 2025