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yes and no

True love is an ideal, and historically I don't know if most people experienced it- people have always married for money, had arranged marriages, been subject to immense power differences in their relationships that forced them to behave in certain ways. I do see this sentiment frequently and I think it reflects 1. the difficulty of romantic relationships in general, being something that you have to work at and compromise in every day, and 2. a general isolation that prevents people from falling in love organically and the perception of there "always being a better option" because of dating apps and social media feeding you the 1% of hot people all the time and movies and music and tv presenting sensationalized dream love stories to aspire to. So maybe romance is just as hard to find as it has ever been, just in new ways. People have always yearned, so what do i know

@eatgraeps

Feb 18, 2025

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i think true love is often misrepreSENTED

true love is not just the emotional lust you feel for someone you care for or the affection you feel for your family its also the joy you get from your hobbies or your admiration of your environment true love is for more than just people or things and i think we lose site of that often

@odette

Apr 14, 2025

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hopeless romantic + realist

i’m definitely a hopeless romantic but i think i have a good sense of realistic expectations in (romantic) love. so obviously i hope i find someone that’s like the loml but i understand how rare that is! and i find it much more important to spend time appreciating love for yourself and others and nature and so on. all loves are important and abundant when you embrace them! maybe related — i know it’s the generational norm but dating apps feel way too unnatural to me. i also think when we talk about “love of your life” it’s always finite; i believe it’s more normal/realistic to have someone be the love of your life at a specific point in your life, and later you maybe part ways when you realize your lives and selves have separately evolved from that time. but i know so many people who define their lives/future over being in their specific relationship (regardless if it’s monogamous or not!) and i have found that is unhealthy and unsustainable. i think you can get so deep into a relationship that you drown in it!

@marxinista

May 14, 2024

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giving tasks to men

Any man, any task. I’m sure there are other ways to strengthen your relationships with men but this is the easiest I’ve found and my method also gets a task done. Ask your dad to build shelves, ask some guy on your street to mow your lawn, ask your friend to collect a parcel for you, ask your brother to hang a picture frame. So many tasks get done and so many men feel needed and appreciated. Could offer them a beer to make it transactional but it’s almost never necessary.

@soft

Mar 5, 2025

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Forgiveness

it's soooo sexy to just get over things. what ever baby we all die come to the party tonight the love is still here! everyone should kiss and make up imo

@soft

Feb 15, 2025

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CHECKING PI.FYI AFTER AN IRREDEEMABLY BAD DAY

Brings my heart rate down by at least 30bpm. It’s so nice to instantly tap into an endless stream of reminders that there are beautiful things in the world and gorgeous people who don’t regret life.

@soft

Apr 16, 2025