Rec | PURSES AS A GENDER NEUTRAL CONCEPT

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so many of my guy friends never have a bag on them and consequently i am frequently the one doling out hand sanitizer/gum and carrying little things for them. luv them and truly happy 2 #provide but it Would be nice if we all carried some things now and then to cover each others’ bases….nowadays i do think more people regardless of gender are bringing bags around for fashion/functionality which is a great trend keep it up ✊(also it doesn’t have to be a big bag!! i don’t like carrying around too much stuff either🙂‍↕️)

@darice

Feb 26, 2025

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@ableparris

💯💁‍♂️ I started carrying a shoulder bag the past few years. Have a little collection started as I’m figuring out what I like/need in a bag.

Mar 1, 2025

@Greenelysium

True. It’s like asap rocky said, it’s not a purse it’s a satchel. I’m never gonna be caught dead with a fanny pack though, i just hate the look too much.

Feb 27, 2025

@beyblade69

trans guy here. big fan of having a bag completely agree with you there, but i wear a fanny pack instead of a purse. makes it easier to not lose, plus less dysphoria inducing. i think cis guys have dysphoria too a little bit tbh

Feb 26, 2025

@darice

beyblade69 oh totally! i myself prefer a satchel or a fanny pack as well :) i meant purse in the general sense of an everyday bag which itself has been a gendered practice and therefore a gendered word applied most often to the prototypical “woman’s bag” — i suppose i was trying to reference and subvert that notion in the same breath, but it makes sense that the descriptor can be dysphoria inducing for that very reason!

Feb 26, 2025

@soft

It’s kind of strange that it’s a gender thing and it landed this way around when you consider men as like providers and the stronger body. Very strange never noticed

Feb 26, 2025

@brianbugcollector

lemaire croissant bags for all

Feb 26, 2025

@ars3n

Hip satchels/crossbody bags are the perfect gateway to getting dudes on board with handbags 😎

Feb 26, 2025

@st9n

they prolly just are scared to get one in case they can’t style it!!! If u are a gift giver u should buy your male friends a nice bag… I like quiksilver and animal. Once I got confident with my first I was unstoppable and now am a Bag Guy

Feb 26, 2025

@marxinista

st9n i could imagine the baby crescent bags as being easily styled for masculine outfits!!

Feb 26, 2025

@darice

st9n i think ur right! and oo ok taking notes 📝

Feb 26, 2025

@marxinista

darice omg that’s meant to say baggu not baby lmao 😭😭

Feb 26, 2025

@darice

marxinista hahah nw i figured!

Feb 26, 2025

@FFH

yeah i don't know how so many guys function without a bag entirely, at least carry a messenger bag or something if you're going to be fragile about it! it's just inconvenient at a certain point

Feb 26, 2025

@grape

I am a diehard backpack user, but I swapped it for a tote at this music fest bc they do not allow backpacks. It was an interesting experience. Not as organized or easy to carry but it got the job done! If i had to chose I would always go with a backpack but totes and the like seem to be pretty viable as an alternative.

Feb 26, 2025

@darice

grape for sure! yeahh totes can get messy easily.. i like messenger bags as an alternative since they’re still roomy but more structured!

Feb 26, 2025

@grape

darice ohh yeah satchels and the like. If I had fuck you money I would definitely be investing in cool looking bag accessories like those. Added to the list of things I *would* buy

Feb 26, 2025

@hhtthhtthhttht

I love throwing shit in my tote bag (currently has 3 deer bones, an art magazine, iPad and zyns) but Im starting to tire of it aesthetically. I yearn for a raw leather bag

Feb 26, 2025

@darice

hhtthhtthhttht yess and i think it’s fun to switch it up sometimes depending on the day’s vibe!

Feb 26, 2025

@st9n

hhtthhtthhttht for me a tote bag is a sign of a fella who wants the bag life but is too scared to commit to a more stylish / expensive one. Take the plunge homie

Feb 26, 2025

@hhtthhtthhttht

st9n you’d be correct too lmao i needed the push. Gonna see what the secondhand purse market is looking like

Feb 26, 2025

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@deluxtoads

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Saw this question pop up in the morning and have spent the rest of the day thinking about bags. Turns out I’m harboring a lot of opinions on them. Like flora I agree that you need one in each size (s/m/l). Additionally as a person who treats my clothes and accessories like trash it’s imperative I have a bag that isn’t precious but looks chic. Which is why I always go with a medium sized leather bucket bag in a fun or neutral color. I go through one every 5 years. In college I had my mom’s 70s Dooney and Bourke, when I moved to New York I treated myself to a Creatures of Comfort (RIP) and recently I scored an OAD bag (also maybe RIP?) off The Real Real. Bucket bags fit everything, but don’t look like you’re schlepping your whole life in there. I also like going bagless and using just a Petit Pli mini pocket that I wear around my neck. There’s enough room to tuck a card and a key in too. On the XL size I love my Baggu cloud bag. It’s the absolute goat for travel because it also is collapsable!