Tl;dr I am just talking about how I was lucky to not grow up as an incel
Growing up I had no role models and so, me getting out of that alt right mysogynist pipeline was because 13 y/o me saw a video about Nirvana. A few years ago I was part of a subreddit where mostly older girls and ladies were and as I would read their comments i realised the many wrong things i was doing everyday which could end up hurting someone if they ever got together with me. A few weeks ago, i saw a reel where a girl was talking about how frustrating it was when guys ignored menial tasks like throwing socks in laundry and I realised, "oh! I do this sometimes" and ever since I saw it, anytime I ignore such things, i immediately remember that reel and all the comments on it and I just do the whole thing because I don't want to be an asshole because of my ignorance which was a result of me growing up in an environment which enabled my shitty behaviour.
I feel like I was lucky in this sense because I inadvertently came across the right places. The creators I grew up with were decent human beings. Not a single youtuber I used to watch growing up ended up being in any controversy. I watched some of them again recently and some are even making videos calling out trash behaviour.
It's also worth noting that back in 2014-15 yt was not full of alpha male shit. Everyone was just chilling and playing Minecraft. The video essays were still as great as they are now. If I was born any later, I am afraid I might've fallen down that pipeline and become a completely irredeemable pos.
