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unapologetically a STEREOTYPICAL woman

In cinema, women who take pride in their appearance by investing time in their makeup, hair, and outfits while also indulging in the finer things in life are commonly villainised. Whether it is loving to splurge on materialistic things, such as expensive clothes and jewellery, handbags, or shoes—the portrayed women are usually always the antagonist. Take Highschool musical. Sharpay, a woman who prided herself on her appearance was solely obsessed with status and boys. The Devil Wears Prada. Andy was portrayed to be less inclined with her appearance and therefore the most ’kind-hearted‘ character within her workplace, while the other ladies who were equally diligent at their jobs and who also worked equally long hours and busted their butts were portrayed to be snubbish and rude. As Andy then moved on to change her appearance, she maintained her self respect but lost it from her partner (to me this heavily reinforced the notion that ‘boys don’t like women who spend money on their looks blah blah blah they just want a ‘real‘ woman) due to her changing appearance and her dedication to her job. Legally Blonde. She never did it for herself in the first place, she did it to prove herself to her ex-boyfriend. She ended up becoming an awesome lawyer at the end but I hated that she started off ditsy and they couldn’t even get her character to be somewhat professional for a Harvard Interview tape, really undermining her professionalism. Grease. Dany loved Sandy. AND SHE STILL CHANGED HER WHOLE STYLE FOR HIM AT THE VERY END. In these these movies, it’s also common for the more ’tom-boyish’ women to tear down the more ‘feminine’ women, which in my personal experience unconsciously led me down the same behaviour path while I was in my impressionable teen years. Women so focused on tearing other women down. For the longest time growing up, I detested the colour pink and I hated wearing makeup and dresses. Instead, I skateboarded and played soccer and video games on my DS and PSP (which I loved to do) while I was secretly jealous of my sister’s pink barbie dolls and sparkly dresses. All these movies that I grew up watching, although I didn’t know it then, looked down on the idea of enjoying the feminine things in life—especially to get a boys attention. As an insecure kid, it really messed me up, thinking the only way I could get a boys attention was rejecting the things I secretly liked. What young girls needed was a mix of representation of strong women while not vilifying a lifestyle. It took a lot of self-reflection and development as well as maturity to unlearn the inherent behaviour patterns that I learnt through the media I was consuming. Especially unlearning the phrase a lot of teen girls are familiar with: “girls are too much drama.” No, girls are not too much drama. It is okay to like pink, to like makeup and dresses, to be materialistic and enjoy collecting shoes and bags. The right man/partner for you won’t care what you choose to do with your appearance, but will encourage you to be happy. And most importantly, you will be happy. As a 23 year old Civil Engineer by trade, women are awesome. No matter their style preference or job choice. I like materialistic things, I get my nails done once a month, and my eyebrows done once a fortnight, and I love to shop for clothes and handbags. But I‘d also like to believe this isn’t my soul personality trait, I like to go to the gym, I am a big gamer and I love to read, I’ve been watching anime since I was nine, and playing in the mud on rainy days is still a fun secret hobby of mine. I also would like to believe that I am a good person who is also good at what I do, and that I also possess my own drives and passions, despite my love for pink and Christian Dior.

@jilly

Jan 23, 2025

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I have the opposite jealousy as a cis male

I’m jealous of the Rookie magazine, Rock Camp for Girls, Felicity, Gilmore Girls, Tumblr teen girl experience. (I know those are different eras but I’m old andit all blurs together) And anything with BFFs! And sharing bracelets at Taylor Swift shows! Obviously this a romanticized version of girlhood the same as Stand By Me was for boyhood.

@bee1000

Jun 28, 2024

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experiences of womanhood/girlhood

When I think about ‘my tastes’ in an expansive way, I think the common thread is explorations of femme-ness— living as a woman, being perceived as a woman, experiencing girlhood, existing as a woman within (or really under) masculine cultures/political structures/households etc. I often joke to my friends that I don’t read male authors because I don’t want a tourists guide, but I do find that almost all of the art I enjoy is women’s work. Favorite artists: Faith Ringold, Camille Claudel, Artemisia Gentileschi, Claudette Johnson Favorite poets/writers/authors: Maggie O’Farrell, Ada Lìmon, bell hooks, Charlotte Brontë, Valeria Luiselli Favorite directors: Celine Sciamma, Kelly Reichardt, Celine Song, Sarah Polley, Greta Gerwig Favorite films: Petite Maman, The Worst Person In The World, Frances Ha, Ladybird Outside of the art I consume, I think my life is very oriented around womanhood— my apartment is overtly a woman’s house, my closest friends are women, the ways that I exercise and cook and dress are all intentionally oriented around my woman’s body and it’s cycles and needs but also the expression of being a woman, like not just a human person but a Woman, in the way that bell hooks and Virginia Woolf write about.

@nadiyaelyse

Dec 18, 2024

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a new hair cut is'nt just a new hair cut

It's a new mindset, a reset, a new era, a new embodiment of who you are and expresses so many identities within yourself. Your heritage, your sexual orientation, what you've been through and where you are headed. Hair is meant to grow and change. As are you. No hair is nothing bad at all. Its' freeing. Rock that shit.

@esseeencceee

Mar 23, 2025

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to do list

1. serve 2. give 3. werk

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Mar 27, 2025

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What being autistic is like

Being autistic is like playing a card game u don’t know the rules to and no one explained. Everyone else has been playing for years, then get mad at you when you fuck up only to realize that half of them are cheating and the other half is bluffing. I am now playing solitaire.

@esseeencceee

Mar 23, 2025