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I was spiralling bad bc of assumptions I made. Instead of withering away in my misery, I asker the other person whether their thoughts aligned with what my brain had cleverly predicted. My brain had assumed wrong and caused a great deal of unnecessary distress. Let this be a lesson to us all (mostly future me): just because my brain thinks it, does not mean it's true
Mar 27, 2025

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To calm my anxiety about situations I mostly made up in my head, I like to remind myself: “If it’s not actually happening, then it’s not real”. Ex) If Jessica didn’t tell me that I’m a dumb b that she hates, then I’m not a dumb b and she doesn’t hate me
Mar 27, 2025
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@DANI_Z_BAYBEE ah I fear that does not work for because of ~experiences~. For me it's all about grounding and focusing on things I know are certain (which I need some communicating for sometimes).
Mar 28, 2025

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It really cheeses me off when people think they know what others are thinking or what makes them tick or what their motivations are for something. Recently heard someone say, "Oh the whole reason 'Brad' did good at [this thing] is because he got social validation from his success." And I said, "Oh really, did Brad tell you that?" And of course the answer was no, Brad never said that. It was just a great big assumption about Brad's motives—and a negative assumption at that. You contain multitudes. I contain multitudes. We contain multitudes. We are right now the living, breathing, growing sum of a trillion different factors. It is far more interesting and fulfilling to be curious and ask and be surprised than to project our narrow, limited assumptions on others. (apparently this is a bit of a theme for me today since I already posted about it in another form) And if you find yourself mind reading and assuming and putting others in a box, then you know what, no worries! Me too sometimes. But let's not stay there.
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Everyone I’ve met who thinks they know what’s going ends up wrong or suffering. Accepting that you don’t know what’s going on can be very helpful and freeing.
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Two days ago while in a daunting line at an airport, I heard one silver-haired man say to another about Hurricane Helene that just devastated parts of the US: "When the hurricane came off the gulf it hadn't picked up any water, but somehow it rained over sixteen inches." "You know they can control the weather now. You've never heard of weather manipulation?" "Their target was Spruce Pine in North Carolina. Every single computer chip in the world has a crystal that comes from there." "They are trying to control things politically because of the election." "You heard about what they did with the wildfires in Hawaii using the lasers from space?" -- Okay, confession: my first impulse is that I wanted to text someone or post somewhere about the wacky conversation I'd just overheard: about how people are so gullible or, more generously, isn't it crazy how we can so easily find ourselves in these narrow algorithmic internet bubbles that keep us in a perpetual rabbit hole reality. But instead, I remained curious. Not necessarily curious about the content of what this guy was saying, though it turns out that some of his facts may have been on target, even if his conclusions seem way off base—the thing about chip manufacturing and Spruce Pine, for instance, was widely reported. But I held curiosity instead about him as a person and about me and about all of us. I wondered: how did he get there with these beliefs? Has it impacted his life and relationships? What are holiday conversations like for his family? And what about me: surely there are absolute certainties that I'm believing right now that may turn out later to have been wrong — am I holding those in a way now that invites feedback and conversation or am I doubling down and become narrower and less approachable? And also about all of us: we are all wrong about some things. If we weren't, there'd never be any space for learning and growth. So knowing that, about me and about you, how can we live in a way that both honors our current state while keeping a posture of teachability?
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