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Bring back being genuine about your suffering on the internet. was that ever really a thing? is tumblr just a social anecdote to a form of media we thought / wished we had?
*^ little miss avoidant. or maybe indirect? dw folks it was amicable! he has a heart of gold! which makes me even more miserable…
#gointhruthemotions #humanbeingbehaviour
*^ little miss avoidant. or maybe indirect? dw folks it was amicable! he has a heart of gold! which makes me even more miserable…
#gointhruthemotions #humanbeingbehaviour
Apr 6, 2025
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📲I left all social media for something like five years and only posted on a small insular abandoned app during that time and that was the main way I communicated with people. After feeling repeatedly hurt and misunderstood and wondering why it was so hard to build earnest connections through this medium I decided to leave. I realized that constantly narrativizing my life with no filter gave me no space to process or examine and kept me trapped in deeply baked-in stories in my head.
Anyway I’ve maintained contact with a small handful of my closest friends and it has honestly been somewhat difficult keeping in touch to the same degree as I did before about everyone’s day to day lives.
I think the hardest part is being the odd one out so you’re missing out on the tidbits they share in this one centralized place for the purpose of economy and time and that’s something you kind of just have to accept. There’s a certain level of meticulous detail that may be lost to you and I think interactions become more of a broad big-picture thing; not being so bogged down in the mundanity allows you to engage with more distance and perspective which can lead to greater depth and emotional honesty.
And then it’s funny because the communication you’re engaging in becomes so direct that rather than everything being so uniform and kind of tossed out there, everything has to be very intentional and personal.
You have to choose to reach out, again and again; you also have to choose when to give people space. You have to be very conscious of the balance between giving and taking because everything isn’t just being offered all at once indirectly on both sides—and this balance won’t always be perfect and sometimes you might not handle it in the most perfect way.
I decided at the beginning of the year that intentionality would be my main theme and I’m still working on it. So I don’t really have the answers but engaging with friends off of social media shapes everything in new and interesting ways and those are some thoughts I’ve had as I begin to navigate this…
Anyway I’ve maintained contact with a small handful of my closest friends and it has honestly been somewhat difficult keeping in touch to the same degree as I did before about everyone’s day to day lives.
I think the hardest part is being the odd one out so you’re missing out on the tidbits they share in this one centralized place for the purpose of economy and time and that’s something you kind of just have to accept. There’s a certain level of meticulous detail that may be lost to you and I think interactions become more of a broad big-picture thing; not being so bogged down in the mundanity allows you to engage with more distance and perspective which can lead to greater depth and emotional honesty.
And then it’s funny because the communication you’re engaging in becomes so direct that rather than everything being so uniform and kind of tossed out there, everything has to be very intentional and personal.
You have to choose to reach out, again and again; you also have to choose when to give people space. You have to be very conscious of the balance between giving and taking because everything isn’t just being offered all at once indirectly on both sides—and this balance won’t always be perfect and sometimes you might not handle it in the most perfect way.
I decided at the beginning of the year that intentionality would be my main theme and I’m still working on it. So I don’t really have the answers but engaging with friends off of social media shapes everything in new and interesting ways and those are some thoughts I’ve had as I begin to navigate this…
Feb 24, 2025
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⭐Decided to tell it here when people here are just strangers and why not? I feel not sad but also not happy about it. 1) I have to make up a whole new routine? 2) I have to be on the apps again? 3) Love was/is still there for him, but that’s not enough to build a longlasting connection. However, it’s been a fun couple of years, I would never forget it. Hopefully. Wishing for a better year this year 🫶🏽⭐️🩷🥹🎉
Jan 23, 2024
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♥️This is different to challenging norms and protecting yr peace btw. I want to._ fight this fucking. polarizing "destroying nuance" take that the internet has accelerated and facilitated. yk what i'm talking about. the gruelling self-help posts that are like - if "they" (othering community) don't benefit u in these specific ways. cut em out. and yk. sure those posts....it's helped me in many ways, and it's not entirely bad esp in relation to boundaries, n acknowledging genuinely subtle/non-subtle socially antagonistic behaviour, abusive people, even in passive ways etc and what not. but in extremities (and these DO fucking exist and they r a pain - even if ragebait), it's hard not to think of it as the same principle of like. capitalism destroying connections and then selling it back to u again. An example of this is people online using AI companions. An extreme example, not saying they will take over btw just like. the mere concept of AI companions is a symptom of intolerance but also techoutput blah blah, and a symptom of seeing people as a means to an end (think dating app shopping culture, and aforementioned lack of nuance/friends who only suit yr needs) but also just the mere possibility of isolating yrself (bc noone is perfect really) so u can be a better consumer yadayada. this is slowly being facilitated by said high social expectations with none to little restorative outlooks or possibilities. People need HARDSHIPS IN RELATIONSHIPS TO GROW. Or otherwise yr just stuck in yr comfort of yrself. Yes avoid abusive ppl. but fucking. yr friend is not evil bc they don't support every single thing u do. look I want to give people UNDERSTANDING AND REALISTIC chances. But also have boundaries I guess. yupppp Hi internet this is my diary u are my therapy book thanks for listening meow ... inspired by my #flattie being like u can cut ppl out who are particular like nah i kinda dont want to but i like working thru things but i genuinely do appreciate yr opinion love u mwah. it was a good conversation
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