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just recently went on my first date ever at 20 years old and i was literally shaking the morning of but it was not nearly as scary as i thought it would be and afterwards i felt so proud of myself!! the best parts of life are outside your comfort zone. currently feeling like i could conquer the world
Apr 15, 2025
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i cannot stress this enough. do not stop doing this for the rest of your life.
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a little more than a week out from my birthday, the final year of my 20s which have been, to put it mildly, tumultuous. feeling so grateful to be constantly becoming more myself, to be in the healthiest loving relationship i’ve ever been in, and to keep trying new restaurants! i love aging!!!!!
Apr 8, 2025
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I’m about to turn 30 and idk if my 21 year old self would approve of where I’m at—but my 6 year old self sure as hell would!! I think a lot of life is finding your way back to Little You.
Being 21 is so so hard, and in college you’re first starting to see that you can’t judge your progress based on other people. Even though that’s how you were taught to judge yourself up until this point. The things you want now probably won’t matter to you in a few years, and for me that would have sounded terrifying at 21. But that doesn’t mean the things you want now aren’t important.
You can think of it in terms of tattoos. If you get a tattoo at 16 it’s not because you know it will represent you always and forever—it’s to commemorate a moment, a feeling of boldness you wanted to wear proudly. And down the line you don’t look at it with regret, but a softness for that younger part of you. Feel your feelings fully in this moment! Be bold with what you care about! Every age is special.
Practical advice:
Try to listen to your body and not your head. Do I actually like how I feel spending time with this person? Am I going through the motions of this hobby because I think it will service something else? Does xyz come naturally to me, or does it feel forced? No action needed. This exercise isn’t about flipping your life upside down, just take notice of how your body feels in certain situations. Start to notice when you’re in fight or flight versus happy and free. Find the ease and follow it
Jan 25, 2025
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happy (early?) birthday!! 🎉 Idk what advice to give because i feel like the 20-somethings now are more emotionally aware than the 20-somethings from even as recent as a decade ago, but tune into your body, give yourself grace, and listen to others’ stories without feeling pressured to model your life after someone else’s. & if you don’t know what you want your life to look like yet that’s okay! ❤️
At 21 I was in my senior year of college and engaged to be married within the year after graduation. In the southern religious environment we were in this wasn’t abnormal, but in retrospect that was soooo young to get married and I don’t think I would have so quickly if I hadn’t been so desperate to get out of a problematic family situation that involved some financial abuse. Despite changing A LOT over the past decade+ my partner and I are still together, and I look back at 21 as a time when I most followed the social script expected of me and coasted on that for a while, until it all started to fall apart (in an ultimately good if devastating way) when I became a mom at 24.Â
tl;dr: my 21 was tame and mellow and happy but i had no idea who i was or what i could be and now i do have a stronger sense of that at 32 and that feels better
Jun 11, 2024
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i’m always scared to be like “omg weren’t we in that writing class together two years ago??” because what if they have no recollection and then i look crazy but other people have done that to me twice this week and i didn’t think they were crazy either time, it just made me really happy they remembered
Jan 28, 2025
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haven’t truly had nothing to do in monthsss and this is so fun!! like yes i’ll be spontaneous with you! let’s clean our apartment for fun and not because we have to! beach sunrise tmrw morning??
Mar 15, 2025
still new to this but i just decorated the cover of this little notebook to write down one thing each day that made me happy. been an avid journal-er for a while but i’ve found i tend to write to untangle negative emotions and i want to remember the good things too! plus now i’m actively searching for and remembering happy things throughout my day to write down :)
Jan 16, 2025