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I do not have to throw myself full force into a friendship
I do not have to give 100%
I can be just acquaintances if I want to
I can deny things I don't like doing
I can set boundaries without feeling bad
I can create relationships I actually enjoy
I can leave behind people who don't respect me
I can meet people halfway and not be expected more than that
I can be free to be tired, busy, needing alone time
I can respond later
I can be allowed to have friends without being a 24/7 hotline
but I'm also allowed to say hi at weird times of the day
I can do anything that works for both of us
I can have a relationship I feel real in without it consuming me
and you can too!!!!!
Apr 16, 2025
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I’ve had sprinkles of acquaintances and light friendships with people over the years that I sometimes feel bad about losing touch with. But sometimes it’s nearly impossible to keep in touch with everyone and still have time to care for yourself and your core people. I’ve tried to stop apologizing for that and just try to let people know I appreciate them from afar. I feel like the older I get the more intentional I have to be with my time and the more healthy boundaries I need to keep. It may disappoint some, but true friends get it, and there will always be an ebb and a flow as life changes. I also feel like social media has wired us to be so hyper-connected all the time and it’s stressful to live up to the expectation of staying in constant communication with everyone you’ve met and liked. Growing up is realizing you can like and enjoy the company of many people and you may not have the time or energy to extend to everyone you want. (And actually it’s also okay not to want to!) Not everything and every connection can stay the same and I need to constantly remind myself of that. I deserve to make space and time for myself so I can love my people better.
Mar 4, 2025
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And I no longer feel bad about it!! Everyone has different needs and it’s unnecessary to put value judgements on it. Real friends will understand and respect your needs. I’ve also accepted that it’s ok to prioritize types of socializing that create what feels like authentic connection to me (ex. hanging out with 1-3 close friends at a time vs.  going to parties where I know I’ll be making an effort to mask). And I let myself leave events as soon as I’m not having fun!!! I like to think that at every party there’s someone else trying to leave early and I’m giving them permission to do so by being the first to dip 🤝 tl;dr : you do you 💛
Aug 18, 2024
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Not to add fuel to anyone’s avoidant attachment, cuz human connection can be the most rewarding experience and I have some incredible people in my life, but being in any kind of unhealthy/mismatched relationship is the most exhausting experience. It takes up far more of your mental energy than you even realize, especially if you’re someone who can lean anxiously attached and tries to “repair” these relationships — like me.
Sometimes you can work out differences with some honest communication, but sometimes it is far better to de-escalate or end things, recognizing that some people have different values or are in such a different place where a long-term connection just isn’t possible — or at least possible, right now.
Be honest with yourself and each other when a relationship feels exhausting — romantic or platonic — and if you’re not certain what you need, take some space to clear your head and find your own inner voice again. It might be trying to tell you something if you take the time to listen.
May 28, 2025
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Apr 17, 2025
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you can do whatever you want, but if you really want to hear my opinion on it... at best, ai-art is demoralizing to actual human beings and creates novelty slop that vaugely looks like an art piece, while not harboring any skill in using it. and theres nothing wrong with not wanting to make art fir the skill of it, though. but at worst, it's an environmental and economic disaster, a predatory business model to consumers and customers of AI, and a great way for businessmen to try and take creativity away from us to turn us into cogs in the machine. it's built off of the stolen work of artists who already struggled to make a living, now forced out by a tool that's turned on them with their own work. it can help make propaganda that is virtually unidentifiable, turn victims into deepfakes, and generally evil we have yet to see. and that's just the image side of things, but the cons of all types of ai models overlap.
I've had to watch people throw away their lifelong dreams because of this garbage. it's no coincidence elonely muskrat and every ceo you can think of are obsessed with it - it's a perverse business tool.
I wouldn't mind coexisting with it if it wasn't out to get me. but it is.
I also feel like it's the reason nobody makes fun photobashes or random photoshops anymore. it will never fully phase out human art but I think it's starting to take over the photography world, especially commercially. I'm sick of looking up real places and animals and sorting through fake slop im being told is real.
Apr 14, 2025
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doing bad things is good for your mental health sometimes. I think. idkÂ
Apr 16, 2025