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Foster a meaningful life on your own

I don’t mean fully by yourself, but foster one on one connections and do things that fill you up outside of a friend group. I lost my whole friend group after college and it really wrecked me and continues to do so (not as much as before). Even when I was friends with them I felt that I was the odd one out. When you’re able to find friends outside of a group, you learn a lot about your own values and about who is really looking to connect. Try not to get discouraged !! <3

@valoorie

Jan 21, 2025

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You Aren’t Alone — we all are

From the Atlantic: ”There is no statistical record of any other period in U.S. history when people have spent more time on their own.” I don’t know anything about you—how funny is that? I couldn’t even begin to guess what your life looks like. I couldn’t spot you in a crowd. If I were a friend, I’m sure I could give better advice. Perhaps suggest joining a local group  I know of, or a class at the gym that always puts me in a good mood. Perhaps introduce you to someone I’ve always thought you’d get along with.  The beautiful thing about the internet is that you can ask this question to the void and the void speaks back. It’s so much easier this way, but so much worse.  Geography, family, shared interests, shared labor. Community used to be inescapable. We still depend on each other for everything, but we do it all at a distance. I’ll chat for an hour with a friend across the country, but I know nothing about the people across the street. It’s a selling point if the grocer can name the farmer who grew your food. I could have been writing this to send to a distant family member, who I want to reconnect with, or an old friend—instead I’m writing to you, a stranger. It’s easier. Our community ties have been broken.  So: what do you, an individual, do? You may find more success if you develop individual friendships tied to a place—several articles about the loneliness epidemic talk about the gym—or a group that meets regularly. Apparently, the best way to beak down peoples’ walls is just to see them constantly. This is true for new friends and for deepening relationships. For those friends and acquaintances you’d like to be closer to, keep inviting them to shit. Set your boundaries, but keep trying. The thing about people is that everybody is interesting and confusing and stupid and wise and mean and wonderful—but it’s safer to spill all that on the internet, where no one can spot you in a crowd. Let people know that you’re around and interested no matter what, and see what happens. It will take a long time, but it’ll be worth it. Not just for you, but for them. For everyone, if we all put the effort in.  I’m sorry—it shouldn’t be this way. But we have to try. We’re all counting on each other <3

@bluz

Apr 23, 2024

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well.....this is kinda awkward....... 🫥

So, I'm just 10 days away from graduation, and today I was journaling, reflecting on my university journey. It's honestly mind-blowing to realise that I've gone through three years of university without being part of one of those friend groups you see everywhere—those tight-knit circles that attend classes together, study together, eat together. I did all of that solo. It's not to boast or anything; I just can't help but feel like I might have missed out on what many consider "the best part of their uni life." To be clear, I do have uni friends (all two of them), but it's not like we do things together much. Maybe I'll visit one of them once or twice a month. So yeah, I'm feeling a bit conflicted about it all. And I can already imagine how awkward it might be at the graduation ceremony when everyone else has flowers and gifts, and there I am, standing alone (it's kind of funny to think about, tbh). Overall, I think I struggle with making friends in general. It's not because I'm standoffish or anything like that; I just take a while to open up and let my guard down. I'm not great at small talk or joking around with people I've just met. Anyway, I'm not sure why I'm writing all this here, but I think I'll copy it into my journal now.

@icedpeachtea

Jun 29, 2024

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GRASS

I laid on the grass today and looked at the eucalyptus tree instead of being sad

@pleadingpisces

Apr 10, 2025

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TO BECOME OUR TRUE AUTHENTIC SELF/GET AS CLOSE TO IT AS POSSIBLE

I change my appearance multiple times a year. I cut my hair and dye it. I try new styles. I get tattoos and piercings. I try new food. I do things for ME. I want to find my true self and interests and each day I get closer to who I really want to be. I feel I learn something new about myself everyday even if it’s small. (I’m depressed + anxious too and it can be so hard but I remind myself that I can’t care about everyone else and their opinions I need to do what is right for me. and no it is not selfish to do things for you).

@pleadingpisces

Apr 9, 2025

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BOOGIE NIGHTS (ON 35MM FILM AT THE NEW BEVERLY)

It’s an INSANE movie about the porn industry in the 70s and it’s funny yet shocking yet sad and gruesome. Seeing it in theaters was wild.

@pleadingpisces

Apr 10, 2025