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You often find growth within yourself when you get a significant other. Instead of putting yourself first always you have someone else to care about other than yourself and with that comes responsibilities that allow you to mature and become a better person. I think meaningful lasting relationships can impact someone’s life more than anything else in this world and a meaningful relationship with someone who you care about more than yourself and anything else is truly the best feeling in the world
6d ago
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There’s a difference to having an openness to finding someone versus the intensity of searching.
it’s a difference between feeling secure enough in the relationship with yourself versus finding somebody else to complete you.
A relationship is two whole, complete people and the relationship is a third entity that you need to nurture.
As you grow and develop yourself, it can be easier to find people that you relate to.
Jun 25, 2024
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This time 4 years ago, I was reeling from the most embarrassingly heinous situationship that’s ever befallen anyone I know (lol this guy is perhaps a story for another time). Now I’m 2 years into living with the love of my life, thinking that I was too broken to ever get close to a human being again
Some of the (many) things that worked for me:
- Taking an extended period away from dating, far longer than I had thought. In a fucked up way, I think Covid saved my life since I functionally had no way to get back out there for 6+ months (I’m not counting those weird FaceTime dates). Even if you think you’re ready, it’s possible you could still benefit from time outside the cesspool just working on yourself and investing in friendships/hobbies/your career/learning new stuff/whatever.
- On a related note, therapy was very needed!
- Start a new, group hobby where you’ll see the same people each week. Not that you’ll forcibly end up dating someone you meet there, but an expanded circle often brings good into your life and it’s exciting to have something new in your life that isn’t tied to success on a dating app.
- Not to be that person since I always hated when people said this to me when I was single, but it always happens when you least expect it. All of the above contributes to a new you who isn’t yearning for it above all else. People are drawn to others who seem to be thriving without them and I promise you you’ll attract much higher quality people when you project this attitude (my own prospects were night and day since I was content in my own life and saw someone as additive not just looking for love/acceptance/contact from whoever could provide it).
Those are the things that came to me initially, but will keep noodling. Rooting for you ❤️
Apr 1, 2024
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By putting hopes + healing into someone else's hands, you also give them all that power over you.
When they stop x, y, z, your maintenance is dropped.
Your wound is never healed without them. (Re: "lost the person who I thought would heal me from all previous wounds.")
Best news is that you haven't lost that person. It's all u bb
A lil self journey to gentle self care could go a long way, with maybe professionals if needed.
Next relationship will be healing bc you'll have all that inner stability.
Hope this helps 🩷🪻🩵
Apr 12, 2025
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Currently I am finding it rather difficult to find myself in this world and what I want to do. Being 21 and in college really puts a lot of pressure on you when your peers are entering their last year at university. I’ve never known what I want to do, i’ve never had a lifelong dream of becoming something. I never had that feeling. Out of high school I had no idea what to do with my life so i copied another persons life instead of taking my own route. I realized then this is never a good idea you should always be yourself. The issue is I don’t know myself, I don’t know what I want to do with my life. I don’t know what I want to become career wise. I have many lifelong goals and plans for my future like getting married, starting a family, and moving to a beautiful house preferably outside of lakeway it’s just the roadblock of how I’m gonna do all of that. Career and money really puts a lingering constant pressure on me and it is genuinely one of the worst feelings in the world. Seeing your peers grow up and get internships and jobs and opportunities when you have no clue whatsoever what you want to do is rough. I do believe somewhere in my mind that I will randomly find a calling or a passion and turn that into a well paying career. But for now i’m stuck.
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Nature is beautiful. I tend to often find myself inside more than outside but when I do go outside I appreciate the beauty of nature and the wildlife and the grass. Life is so beautiful and everything in it.
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I absolutely love Fortnite. I started playing in September of 2017 and fell in love with the game soon after. I remember being in class everyday in 8th grade and the only thing that was on my mind was when will I play fortnite next. It was a crazy level of obsession I had to this silly cartoon game. As time went on I made friends solely just because of Fortnite I remember having like 5 really good online friends just from Fortnite. It was crazy, good times! I’ve taken breaks from Fortnite but always came back to it. There has not been a single month in the past 8 years where I have not at least played one game of Fortnite. I started playing when I was 15 and now i’m 21. Crazy to think about. I graduated middle school, then high school, then went to college, then dropped out, then went to another college, then dropped out of that one, then went to another college all while playing this game. I love Fortnite so much although it’s just a game it means much more to me than that.
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