Rec | FACING YOUR FEAR OF REJECTION

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I have a heavy dose of social anxiety so I have quite a difficult time making friends. My brother is the complete opposite of me, so he encourages me to reach out to people all the time. I usually never do it but I’ve been so fed up with feeling unsatisfied and lonely. So I messaged a few people I went to college with yesterday and they all want to hang out!! I was so scared of getting rejected. But even if they were to reject me, I think having this skill is something I’ll be grateful for in the long run. Even if it feels really scary now.

@valoorie

5d ago

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ANTI-REC: SOCIAL ANXIETY

why is talking to people who i want to be friends with so stressful?? i saw this guy today who volunteers at the radio station i volunteer at, and who i’ve seen play with his band a few shows, and is friends with my friends, but has no idea who i am. i stood off to the side for ten minutes trying to work up the courage to say hello, sweating, getting a stomach ache, itchy, blushing. in the end i just left without saying anything. why is it so hard!

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JUST BECAUSE ANXIETY IS THE LOUDEST VOICE DOESN’T MEAN IT’S TRUE

You’ve been wanting to hang out with people more. You did the brave thing of asking people to hang out. Now the fear that has kept you from doing this is being super loud. To be expected! Buying into the fear is not going to get you what you want. Each time you act bravely, that part of you grows. What does this anxiety look like? Does the fear look differently? What would happen if you could comfort it? Do some classic CBT- instead of all the horrible what ifs, what if it goes amazingly well? What if you make a new connection that feeds your soul? Think of some mantras for yourself. Repeat them over and over. Each time you start to feel anxious, take a nice deep breath (exhale longer than inhale) and remind yourself. Everything you want is on the other side of fear. And I believe you are brave enough to do it!!