This question set me free. I believe there are 3 things that don’t rely on the bounds of time:
Love
Nostalgia
Forgiveness If we can learn to remember the feeling of forgiveness - the release of emotional burden - before something has even happened it allows us to let go of any expectation for ourselves or others to let us down. I got to a point where I forgave my wrongdoers of their past actions only to realize that I wasnt healed when they’d repeat a pattern. in forgiving tomorrow I release the expectation (without excusing action) to be let down. it’s a choice to accept them (me) as they (I) are (am).
It’s easier said than done but forgiveness is key to accepting someone else’s flawed humanity and in turn recognising and accepting your own. There’s a feeling of serenity that comes with letting go of things that have already happened. We only ever truly have this moment anyway. Why are you here?
Living life independent of grudges, while often difficult, is an essential component of spiritual freedom. Forgiving those who have hurt you allows for positive connections to be fully received with an open heart. Forgiving yourself protects you from the burden of toxic shame, and allows you to look forward to the prospect of self-improvement.
i am still learning this. i try to be an extremely forgiving person (sometimes i struggle); it’s a huge value for me and i don’t want to give that up but i’m still learning how to balance it with boundaries and distance when i need those because i have sometimes been too lax! i keep reminding myself that it’s possible to forgive someone from afar and acknowledge my own feelings/pain even when i understand their situation was not ideal
