I realized I started feeling really disconnected from myself when everything became routine and I was trying to do only what needed to be done. It's the little things that really help you come back to yourself. When it's 10 pm and you want a cherry soda, just go for a little walk and get one. That movie you wanted to see but don't know who to go with, just go yourself. That new place you wanna try. The little stickers that you haven't used yet. Just realizing what you like and what brings you joy and even what doesn't.
Also when I started feeling this way I pulled up some random internet list of 365 questions to ask yourself or journal about and now I try to write a couple lines to a question when I'm waiting on the kettle to boil or on the bus or something. The direction of having questions to reflect on helps me. Sometimes I end up on a tangent but it still helps me pull together memories and ideas.
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i actually did this a while back, and even starting to write it is a good way to start having this quality alone time. thinking about what you can include on the list is a way to understand yourself better, what you like to do on your free time and how you can make it enjoyable for you. even if you can't think of anything right away, it can become a list of things you'd like to experiment.
for me, personally, it helps because (1) i love making lists on itself, so, as i mentioned, just writing this one was a good start and (2) sometimes i'm bored and not sure how to fill my day and i can just check the list and remind myself of those activities that i thought about/experimented before and enjoyed my time while doing them, even the obvious ones can escape my mind!
here's a few things that i have on mine that maybe you'd like as well:
- think less, write more;
- move your body: learn a new choreography, exercise, get up and go around the house 15 times. don’t fight the urge to move, just do it!;
- take more pictures and revisit the good memories;
- draw what you see; the more mundane, the better;
- learn new words of a language, imagine a scenario where you’re actually using them;
- wash your face, use skincare products, stare at your beautiful face in the mirror for as long as you want.
these are the veeeery simple and general ones that you can do without spending any money or that you can do right when you feel like just doing something. they are basically ways to start. but you should definitely try to write things that are more personal and fun to you! :)
Jan 11, 2025
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hiii i have also been in this position many times before and on instinct i would try to fill my days with lots of meaningless actions to fill that void-like feeling. i've found that doing everyday mundane tasks with my whole being has brought a lot of joy back into my life. i think a lot of us go through the motions of our everyday routines without giving our tasks much thought, intention/attention and it feels really nice to flip the script and pay attention deeply. something as simple as a morning cup or coffee or tea can become a ritual - taking ur time with each sip, really really tasting it, paying attention to ur breath + filling into your body in that moment. if you meet each task with the intention to really b there the whole time you'll find that joy is in the ordinary moments. one of my favorite authors thich nhat hanh once said, " you make yourself available to life and life becomes available to you."
Jan 23, 2025
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Gives you a little more clarity and makes self-improvement less daunting. These sensations, tactile or mental, lets you pay attention to your body, your needs, and meeting such needs. It's a specific action that encourages you to be kinder and gentler to yourself, to take your time. You can do this in baby steps-- smell the fresh, warm laundry and recognize the care you put in to give yourself something nice and clean to wear, hug a friend a little tighter and longer after a really nice day together, write down a song lyric that speaks to you and explain why it does, cry a little louder when you're especially sad.. don't deny yourself emotion! Feeling all of these minute details of your everyday life will remind you of your core values and guide you to what activities and other things you can invest yourself in to make your life more than it was before.
Dec 9, 2024
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It's so lawless. You’ll see the weirdest things and no one will care. People are so unabashedly human here. Dead expressions, exhaustion, boredom. You’ll get a coffee, someone else will get a bloody mary, the time is irrelevant. Your priorities will be tested, everything costs at least three times as much as it should, it won’t matter. I love liminal spaces.
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There's nothing like seeing the city from a plane windows. Sparkling like stars down there. The little people in their little cars and twinkling homes. Feels so bittersweet and human somehow.
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