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NOTHING GIVES ME THE ICK MORE THAN MEN WHO CAN'T HOLD A CONVERSATION

it's why i ghost like 75% of the time... i could literally talk about anything in the world with someone i don't have anything in common with on the worst day of my life and ur gonna sit here and ruin the vibe with a "nice" ... LIKE WHATS SO NICE ABOUT IT ???? IM NOT ASKING FOR AN MLA FORMATE BUT CAN WE GET A COUPLE MORE SYLLABLES??! damn

@adrianf

1d ago

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@wisteria

men r so dumb boys r so dumb like give me more stop being dry

21h ago

@katie-3

Flows

21h ago

@judyli

wait agree. i'm trying to be more critical about how i perceive dates...because i know I'm a good conversationalist...what about YOU

22h ago

@painqueen

Omg nothing worst then spending a whole date keeping them entertained then realizing they asked you zero questions.

22h ago

@charlieduhduhduhdorn

literally. like what do you think about?? is there anything going on up there?? is anyone home???

22h ago

@larrydavid

I know this is somewhat tired discourse but it always blows my mind how uninteresting male friendships can be. I think some guys confuse mommy issues with “I’ve never known how to talk deeply with my friends and my girlfriend teaches me how to do this” issues. My bf is a good boy like genuinely and even still he shocks me with how uncurious he is about his friends. I know girls gossip sessions and curiosity about the world and people’s emotions and shit comes from like trauma and learned patterns from being raised as a girl in this world… but like god I feel bad for some guys. They’re just so uncurious

23h ago

@grape

@COWGIRLJESUS I’ve always sought this out in friendships with women primarily. I have had a few guy friends capable of talking beyond surface level but it’s always more comfortable with a woman. There is definitely some sort of conscious or unconscious bias that makes me a bit adverse towards opening up to guys. I am also such a gossip at heart and women always have something interesting going on in that avenue. Then recently it clicked that almost none of my guy friends have or have had woman friends that weren‘t romantic pursuits. Especially in middle school/formative years these friendships *really* helped me branch out and get a lot of the “talking about feelings“ sorted out.

22h ago

@lyssuh95

I only talk to trans guys specifically bc they don’t do this

1d ago

@grape

I feel like this is where the “men who hate their girlfriends” stereotype has its roots. If you can’t be assed to give a real answer back then wtf are you doing

1d ago

@sentries

it's gotten so bad i'm starting to wonder if i'm the dry one - a horrifying prospect

1d ago

@adrianf

@SENTRIES NOO stay strong!! say your affirmations with me.. "i AM a conversationalist" "men have bees in their brains"

1d ago

@sentries

@ADRIANF so true bestie

1d ago

@eatgraeps

I have olympic sprinted away from dates like this because i get so uncomfortable but the unfortunate alternative is that i am attracted to insane and emotionally inaccessible people

1d ago

@adrianf

@EATGRAEPS i would rather have the drama of that kind of a relationship than one that basically feels like talking to a wall.. like genuinely

1d ago

@eatgraeps

@ADRIANF well i wouldn't know ive never been in a relationship but it isn't looking good out here LOL

1d ago

@adrianf

it makes me feel like calling the police like hello... 911 theres a man inside my house please send 50 cars he's unarmed and BORING

1d ago

@adrianf

@ADRIANF SHOOT HIM!! THATLL GET HIM TALKING !

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