i have a hard time talking to new people especially when i don’t know what their personality is like. the first twenty minutes of me talking to them is me trying to get a grasp of what they like, what they think is funny, topics to avoid, etc. even if it’s someone i will never see again, i’m constantly wondering if i’m saying too much, not enough, if i’m being funny, and so on. its ESPECIALLY bad if i want to be friends with them. then every sentence i say is pre-planned 5 minutes before i say it. i plan out every word and even begin to pick up their vocabulary. is anyone else like this or am i just a psycho??
May 20, 2025

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i have to be honest, this video from the most unlikely source (can’t believe I watched a video this long from a show called “diary of a CEO”) helped me a lot in this regard: https://youtu.be/VHUrdELKjDw?feature=shared
May 20, 2025
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I’m one of those people who plans out interactions with others cause I’m naturally a bit awkward. I script a bit of the interaction, create a few different scenarios. Sometimes I’ll have a few talking points prepared catered to people for these moments. So I know they like some show I’ll bring it up as soon as it gets awkward. It works though they’re immediately distracted by stuff like this and I’m in the clear 😅 Typing this out made me realize how much I study and prepare for social interactions sometimes and every allegation about me being on the spectrum is correct.
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i find myself being increasingly awkward and overthinking every single conversation these days. i guess my “go to move” would be just saying the first thing that comes to my mind. talking about a meme or a funny encounter i’ve had recently and pray the conversation keeps going from there!
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I hate small talk and awkward silences so I try to make jokes or bring up another topic 9/10 I end up digging myself into a hole because I start yapping about something unrelated or inappropriate for where I am. So I’d avoid doing that, that doesn’t help.
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