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To truly accept ourselves we have to stop thinking about what others think of us. Period. It doesnāt matter that your crush didnāt like you back. That youāre not your bossās favorite employee. That you arenāt your best friendās best friend. (Although if this is happening to you, find someone who appreciates you equally). What matters is how YOU see yourself. You become what you believe.
May 20, 2025
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Look, first and foremost, itās normal to want to look cool. We all want to fit in, be accepted, be validated and feel like we belong, itās a natural human thing.
But the only way out is through. You have to accept and love yourself. You have to embrace your cringe, and your wonders, and your quirks. You have to learn to be proud of them. You have to validate yourself and understand that by choosing to be you, you will lose some things. Maybe some friends, maybe some validation. But you will get so much more. Thereās nothing cooler than someone who is unafraid of being who they are. Thatās the key, I guess. And itās freaking hard, so itās a process. Just start with the basics. Dress how you want to dress, look how you want to look, and experiment with it, see how you feel, face the rejection with open arms. Be cringe, but be authentic.
Nov 18, 2024
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Honestly, for me, what helped was finally liking the way I perceive myself. When I feel complete, it's easier ignoring other people's perception, and actually start perceiving the world. When you feel confident about yourself it stops being about you, your brain is not focused on your looks anymore. Going out in public finally morphs to just seeing the world and admiring its beauty. Instead of the brain going āme ugly, people hate meā it goes more like āme fine, world niceā. Find what makes you feel complete.
Apr 23, 2024
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I realized a few years ago that my desire and attempts to look a certain way were failing. It wasnāt realistic, and it was making me feel inauthentic, empty, and unhappy. Cameras capture every thing, so itās easy to dwell on imperfections. But thatās not how people experience you. Itās not how others think about you or see you. Imagine how critical you are of yourself and imagine someone else being that critical of another person. Youād think thereās something wrong with them! Who focuses on a personās looks that much! Get a life you misery!
Thatās how we treat ourselves. Thereās an epidemic happening where everyone wants and is going out and getting the same face. The same body. Itās so boring. Your āflawsāāas society has taught you to think about themāare not flaws. They make you unique. Memorable. They make you beautiful. To love yourself is active resistance in an economy fueled by obsession over flaws and unhappiness.
One of the actors in White Lotus, Aimee Lou Woods has some objectively flawed teeth. But thatās what makes her so unique, so special. So cute! They make her attractive because sheās unapologetic about them.
Embracing my big goofy smile and big ears and crinkled crows feet makes me feel comfortable in my own skin. That feeling is so powerful. It spreads to other parts of your life and attracts people to you. Itās how you carry yourself, how you move in the world, engage with other peopleā not how you look.
Mar 29, 2025
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Lately Iāve been disgusted at how much I rely on my phone. Iāve been leaving it in my car, letting loved ones know Iāll be unresponsive for a while, and just taking my digital camera everywhere I go. Iām more engaged in conversations, my attention span is better, AND I have some sweet new digi pics. everything looks so REAL on a digital cam:)
Apr 14, 2025
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Life is beautiful and I think we forget that too often
Jun 5, 2025
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Itās okay to keep some things to yourself!
Apr 19, 2025