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Everyone is beautiful and no one is horny

i remember this article being everywhere when it was published in 2021. still so incisive. pairs well with Mark Greif’s Against Exercise.

@orsonwellesbutrin

May 2, 2024

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This article might be helpful

I'm a man though so take it with a grain of salt

@spencerto

Feb 22, 2024

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to read: everyone is beautiful and no one is horny

@mothersuperior post on latex and the yearndemic reminded me of this essay that I read a few years ago about the commodification and fetishization of the body and how it’s been paralleled with a lack of chemistry and sexuality that we used to see on screen. The title is your tldr: everyone is hot and no one is horny. The sterilization of sexuality and sex is everywhere, past even film. It’s a response to the acceleration of capitalism, war and colonial extraction of the earth. It has crept into the ways we view ourselves, our experience and our bodies. One thing I took away from this essay is that to align yourself with traditional beauty standards will make you too tired to fuck. Similarly, the whole « working on yourself » grind that I heard on first dates all the time is this strange, individualistic perspective that makes you too exhausted and distracted for the holistic chemistry we desire. We flatten our lives to marketable lines that make us appear attractive - I’m working on myself, I’ve been going to therapy, I have a nice job and apartment. And while people are obviously horny, they don’t know for what - forming our bodies to be  better, our minds fixed and correct, we can’t pinpoint what the purpose is cause we’re too fucking exhausted to investigate further than that. Love, desire, and chemistry feel more and more elusive. For us to morph ourselves into the image of sexiness according to western beauty standards, there is sacrifice (nutrients, your current corporeal form, the ability to be perceived as more than an object, working long hours for your grind) that doesn’t align with sensuality (unless you’re into that). There is no room for the spectrum of sensations you body is capable of feeling. There is no room for desire when we’ve given it all up the capitalist war machine. :p

@ilovetrailcamsandbikes

Mar 10, 2025

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DESIRE PATHS

just what i desired!

@phoebehart

May 23, 2025

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taking a long walk when its cold out

walk around your neighborhood until your cheeks and nose are all cold and red!! you’re alive! the cup of tea you make when you get back inside will be the coziest cup of tea ever!!!

@phoebehart

Nov 26, 2024

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eat an apple while you walk around

and then maybe you’ll calm down

@phoebehart

Jan 29, 2025