as in if u make it a requirement of urself you might obsess over having to accomplish it and that can paralyse u, as is my experience with adhd and executive dysfunction
if possible i suggest turning your brain off for a bit(use music to distract if u can) and moving kind of on instinct? wake up, make your bed, get your coffee, get your breakfast, make sure you clean the kitchen as you go and put your dishes away/wash them as soon as you finish eating, go back to your coffee and sit with it for a while to transition into the day. this is all kind of general but the point is to have casual, repetitive(everyday) tasks to slowly introduce you to a routine.
i find it important to clean/pick up anything after disrupting it because clutter and messes always distract me from my thoughts and continue to nag me if left alone-making the likelihood high that ill face a shutdown due to the task becoming another extra step to face later. it also makes it easy to think just about lunch when it comes around and theres no clutter left from breakfast
dont try to force anything and ask urself what you have the energy for, dont use up all ur fuel first thing in the morning and run out of steam later in the day- job hunting is a constant battle with rejection and managing your energy levels thru it all is important
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also can i just add the concept of separating days is some pointless capitalism bs, the sun rises the sun falls but u still exist thru it all and time doesnt stop so all days are one day anyway
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i relate to almost everything u said, i was unable to do anything until literally an hour before the due date. one thing iāve learned over the years is that normal advice like āmake a scheduleā and ādevelop habitsā do not work at all for adhd ppl, bc our brains are not made to do those things. this makes things difficult, but it doesnāt mean achieving our goals is impossible. here are some things that have helped me personally:
- pomodoro method (there are timers on youtube). sitting down and actually timing myself has helped me a lot. also it helps me feel better with just how fast time goes by. working very hard and getting the notification that 15 minutes has passed, helps me to remember that sometimes small steps are easier than they feel like.
- my therapist told me that instead of worrying so much about how much work i could be doing all the time, i should just work on it when i actually feel like doing it. so if i only have motivation an hour before, thatās when i would do it. the stress i used to feel a month before an assignment was due, significantly decreased bc of this new mindset, and it actually felt like my ability to do things increased. itās not a good long term solution, but when ur in a tough spot, allowing urself to sacrifice some late time in order to not feel as much mental stress is worth it for ur mental health.
- realizing that a lot of my motivation was based on what i thought would please others. i feel like this isnāt commonly talked about among ADHD circles, but once i learned about it, it kind of changed my life (fr). i realized that i couldnāt work the most productive way i could, if i was being watched or within someoneās sight. i also procrastinate a lot in order to avoid being judged by others for how slow or disorganized i work. even then, procrastinating causes me to feel more judged by others bc im scared they are thinking im being lazy. so to avoid this, i try my best to work alone or ask someone to do parallel play instead of help me directly. however, i know some ppl benefit from the opposite, having someone around to keep them accountable. it all just comes down to personal preference.
- making sure my needs are met. did i get enough sleep? have i eaten recently within the last 4 hrs? have i drank enough water? did i take my medicine? do i feel too overstimulated; if so, how can i change my environment? do i need headphones? do i need to wash my face or take a shower? do i need to change the lighting? is the temperature too hot or too cold? are my clothes too overwhelming / scratchy? these are some of the things that can keep me from working productively, so i have to keep track of these questions whenever i feel distracted.
- donāt beat urself up. giving into shame and causing urself mental distress will only increase ur anxiety and make u more unable to work. remind urself that ur just now figuring urself out and u are trying ur best. plus, u have good intentions. ur just trying to figure out how to work better and more productively! i think thats all anyone can ask for.
anyways i hope this helps maybe. everyone has a different way of getting things done, so not all things will help or apply to u (which doesnt mean somethingās wrong with u, just that the advice wasnāt meant for u!). also seeking specifically adhd related forums / groups / blogs / youtube channels / etc. helps a lot when trying to find different types of advice other than āwork harderā lol.
good luck and u r not alone! š«¶š
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ADHDer here who has tried so many different methods (and medications) over the years. what works for me doesnāt always work for my friends who also have ADHD, which means itās kind of a treasure hunt to figure out what works best for you. i especially struggled a lot with executive dysfunction in college and had trouble forgetting basic homework and turning in writing assignments days or weeks (and, once, two months) late.
there are a lot of simple tips that non-ADHD people will try to give you that can potentially help, but itās not a cure-all for executive dysfunction. the big ones are planners (i have like 3-5 planners/calendars and todo lists which can help me keep on track at my current job, but that hasnāt always worked for me) and āhave better time managementā (and of course they never expand on that supposed advice). iāve been diagnosed with ADHD since i was 7 years old, so iāve heard and tried it allā¦
hereās what works for me now as someone who works 40 hours/week and when i was in school:
ā¢ BREAK DOWN TASKS INTO SMALLER BITS. this is my #1 go-to for any work or assignments involving writing. outlining, Extremely Rough drafts that i can tinker for a few minutes at a time when iām feeling motivated, messy bullet points and half-baked opening paragraph sentences. even if iām scribbling stuff that wonāt end up in the final product, but youāre getting your brain in the habit of thinking about and planning your writing earlier in the assignment process.
ā¢ LETTING GO OF IDEAL PRODUCTIVITY AND PERFECTION. this is more of a personal tip, but i think some of my procrastination and executive dysfunction when it came to assignments came from anxiety around how i was expected to perform productivity in a neurotypical fashion and my own crippling anxiety around perfectionism. this may not apply to you, but i think itās always helpful to remember that you do not have to adhere to societyās ideas about what productivity āshouldā look like. this is also why the tip of trying to manufacture urgency or deadlines doesnāt work for me.
ā¢ PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR BRAIN. learn what cues you to feel motivated. adjust your environment to incorporate those cues even more and reduce distractions or executive dysfunction. (for me, that includes having a clean workspace and some headphone or earbuds in even if nothing is playing. if i am playing something, itās usually non-lyrical music at a low volume or a video essay iāve already listened to 200+ times.)
ā¢ TAKE A WALK. this is something that i started doing recently and iāve found that it helps me feel more alert and my brain less muddled/unable to focus.
ā¢ finally: TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. i definitely made my executive dysfunction worse in college by not eating well orāmore specificallyānot sleeping enough. speaking from experience, the psychological connection between your brain and body is critical in how effective these tips for dealing with executive dysfunction can be.
this may not be as simple as youāre hoping for, but i do hope that this helps. ā¤ļø
Mar 23, 2025
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idk if i have adhd or i was just raised by and around some people who do but when i feel like i have no sense of routine, i try to pick one singular thing to start doing. Something easy that i enjoy.
if an every day promise to yourself to do something is too much, every other day or once a week is a great place to start. the great thing is, it doesn't even matter what that thing is. it could be to eat breakfast, go on a walk, or do a lil sun salutation when you wake up. then expand on that. ex: eat breakfast every day. then you add stretching before breakfast. then doing the dishes right after. Some ppl call this habit stacking.
Doing these things with people increases your sense of connectedness or accountably too. Having a weekly or monthly event can change the feeling of the whole week leading up to it.
imo the best way to change anything about your life is to focus on what you can add instead of what you need to take away. it shifts the frame of mind from shame to joy :)
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