this feels like a big answer for this question but it’s true! I feel like I used to feel the most tortured when I thought I had done everything right and according to plan but things didn’t work out the way I thought (still feel tortured by this sometimes tbh).
in a perfect world 1+1=2 but in this universe with nature and people and relationships 1+1 doesn’t have to be 2 and can be something different altogether. realizing that I was doing things hoping for a very specific endpoint and that I was miserable every time the process felt like it had all been for nothing when it yielded a different result was eye opening for me.
these days I try to do feelings checks during the process so even if things don’t go the way I thought and the universe has a different gift for me, I’m at peace and happy I was on the journey anyway even if the end doesn’t look how I envisioned! truly have found more peace by trying to embody the belief that I don’t have any idea how things will go!
(but also getting a gua sha and making a ritual out of moisturizing & doing a lil massage routine every night has helped!)
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i began to make more intentional decisions, aligned with what I truly wanted for myself, rather than what others expect from me—whether those "others" are real people or more abstract societal expectations that i had internalized. This meant sitting down and listening to what i needed, wanted, and could give to myself. having an idea of what i want my life to look like in a few years really helps—especially if it’s got a mix of realistic and crazy aspects in it i guess
my life is far from perfect, it doesn't have to be. It's all cyclical, i think.
I’ve started treating myself with more compassion, which, like everything else, is a work in progress. I try to do this because guilt can be too defeating. i fuck up all the time, but i try again and again and again. And when everything feels overwhelming, I try—if I can—to step back and view my life from an observer's perspective. Detaching a bit can really help.
Dec 4, 2024
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one thing i've learned is that there is absolutely nowhere you should be or anything you should be striving for. u r where you r for a reason, don’t fight the current. knowing this has eased a lot of my anxieties about my future and what's to come. as long as i am avid about cultivating joy and doing things that give me a sense of purpose (reading books, journaling, quality time w/ friends + family) i know that everything else will fall into place. trust this and i promise it will prove to b fruitful! any action done in the present is a key factor in what your future will manifest as - one question i always ask myself is: is your current routine bringing you joy???
Jan 22, 2025
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I contemplate these questions often, I feel like one conclusion I have come to is learning to trust myself first. Obviously sometimes that means you could be wrong, but when you listen to yourself - in your heart & in your gut - it has the answers more often than not. Sometimes that takes going through new experiences and learning new things about yourself. Allowing it to look like whatever it needs to look like. Some say utilizing stillness will help, but for others it may be chaos that helps to gather the insight and wisdom you seek.
Apr 6, 2024
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a quick “thank you luck!!” lets her know you see her work and appreciate her ☺️
Jun 3, 2025
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grab your friends and go to the park, throw a dinner party, sit on the floor of your room and yap for 8 hours! I often think about how when we lose something we know it was real because of collective memories. like I’m sure I had a pink sweatshirt with a dinosaur on it as a kid, but my mom doesn’t remember it, and we have no photos of it. my sister remembers it though! so I know it was real. hanging out with my friends makes me feel real because I get to see memories form in real time, and get to see the joy that my friends are experiencing (and feel my own joy as well!). you’ll be able to talk about that day forever with a quick “hey remember that time when…” and what’s more real than that?
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