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And I really do mean any kind of community, as long as it’s a group where you feel supported. I was raised without religion, largely, but I decided to start going to a church near me in March. I was feeling lost and lonely and I figured it was worth a shot. Everyone has been so, so welcoming and kind. I even got baptized last Sunday. It’s been fulfilling feeling like I’m part of something bigger than just myself, like I’m part of a larger group that I can belong to. I don’t think it has to be a religious organization, I think you can find meaningful human connection anywhere - You just have to step outside your door and go looking for it. Find a local library to hang around, small music events, anywhere where there’s people like you!
Jun 23, 2025
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that is so lovely! I grew up going to church and never connected to the belief system but have always thought the community building aspect was the whole point of religion.
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I moved to a new city during covid and times were tough here for a while, but this is what worked for me:
- befriending your coworkers (sometimes they’re really cool and will become your bff, most of them time they’re fine to occasionally hang w)
-being a regular at a coffee shop, bar, or concert/show venue (hit up the familiar faces and they’re likely to introduce you to their crew as well)
-bumble bff (kind of the worst but also fun- I met a few of my close friends on here who then introduced me to their friend groups. Mostly great interactions but be weary of some ppl trying to use it as a sly dating tool)
-get involved in the community! i host a book club and I play soccer on a local rec team. I’ve met so many people that I would’ve probably never encountered otherwise through Bookclub- don’t be afraid of multigenerational friendships! With soccer, I’ve met such a diverse crowd and it’s encouraged me to attempt to learn Spanish. It’s nice to be able to get a group of ppl together and play/practice when you all have a night free, or go and watch a game! If you’re sporty, you can also invite your new sporty pals out for runs, hikes, or other workout type activities!
Aug 20, 2024
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it’s weird, but my mom has told me about this senior bingo night that she’s started going to. she looks forward to it and tells me how fun it is to hang out with them. i feel like joining a chess club or knitting circle or fucking bridge group would have been so fun as a younger person. it doesn’t really matter the age of the people as long as you’re embraced and cherished in some way. is there any forum for you to look for local clubs? also the gym. also volunteering???? it’s actually the best kept secret that folks who volunteer are compulsorily interesting. but western society is so individualist, i understand entirely that it can feel like beside school, there’s no place for you in the world. i truly hope you find somewhere that people appreciate your presence.
Sep 28, 2024
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I came out of the pandemic period with my life totally destabilized in pretty much every way it could have been and I found myself back in my hometown needing some direction or purpose to either make it work or move somewhere else. I got a music degree for undergrad so I was interested in the music business and I decided to apply for my MBA, Belmont in Nashville was the first to get back to me and with a full ride scholarship so the decision to move was pretty easy. Since moving it hasn't always been smooth sailing, and most of my hardship in moving stems from the degree to which I'm isolated from others.
I think the worst thing anyone can do when moving is be alone. Obviously figure out your housing/work situation first, but then the next step is actually quite urgent: FIND COMMUNITY. Moving across the country in your 20s is something people often do alone, and if you're moving to a new city where you don't know anyone, chances are you might live alone or with roommates. But to feel truly integrated into any place you NEED multiple social support structures. You can't rely on your roommate/romantic partner to be everything for you in life if those are your closest relationships.
Find people who do the things you enjoy having in life and show up to their stuff, keep showing up, meet people, do things with those people outside of where you met them, build that web of connections and support. Community can be based around hobbies, political ideologies, spirituality, special interests, creative expression, physical activity, honestly it's probably best to have a community for as many of these as possible if you can. In this capitalist hellworld it's so easy to be atomized and find yourself isolated by the very routines and habits that are required to achieve baseline survival, so it's crucial to act in opposition to these forces whenever possible. Do the things you care about with the people who you will come to care about and then you will have built a home for yourself no matter where you live.
Feb 9, 2025
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