i say TRY it. see if it feels okay in the first few hours of ur day and if it doesn't, pivot! go outside, get ur favorite drink or watch ur favorite movie. i treat birthdays as a personal ritual. what do i love??? what do i wanna do on a perfect day??? incorporate that idealogy into your time and know that alone birthdays are no less special. if anything, it's a day to reset/realign and esp for a 20th!! think about what u wish and hope for in this new decade of life. and than whenever ur friends get back, throw the most fun party <3
Jun 24, 2025
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itโs such a awkward marker of a new year. a weird mix of wanting people to celebrate you, but feeling tired of the obligation to thank everyone that only reaches out once a year.
i always find birthdays really hard, and fairly disappointing.
my recommendation is to give yourself grace, and do what makes you happy. i know itโs such a generic rec but this past year on the actual day i just took it easy, treated myself to some takeout, and watched a show in bed. a few days after i got together with friends and we went to a restaurant i love but theyโd never really wanted to go to. and then we ate homemade cake and watched a movie.
sorry if this isnโt a very upbeat response (: <3
happy birthday!! and know random people on the internet are celebrating you (:
Jul 30, 2024
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one of the most memorable birthdays i have had is a surprise birthday for my 18th or 21st and i absolutely hated it. i appreciated the effort my family went through to do it but it was my literal nightmare.
my birthday tradition is to spend it doing whatever i want and not feel bad about it. if that means spending an obscene amount of money on shoes i've been lusting after, heck yeah i'll do it. if that means spending the entire day at the cinemas, you bet i'm there. if that means going out with my friends or travelling, yeah i'm doing it. and sometimes i actually just don't feel like doing anything at all and that is sometimes a vibe too.
i think sometimes we are put under pressure to celebrate our birthdays in a certain way with others or throw parties but if that isn't authentic to you or you just don't feel like it, your birthday should be the one day of the year that you can do whatever you want.
Jan 8, 2025
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i think we should leave begind the idea that there are certain activities that you have to do with friends or are weird to do alone - besides on your birthday there are no rules!
here's what i would do with my day:
- have a lie-in
- make my favourite breakfast and have a fun drink
- go to a museum/art gallery
- buy food and sit in a park appreaciating nature
- go to the cinema/rewatch a fav movie at home
- buy myself a birthday gift (personally i'm leaning towards getting docs for myself for my bday)
- call my friends/family
happy birthday!
Jun 24, 2025
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take ur time!! let the city flow through you slowly. i moved to nyc and it took a YEAR for me to find my feet. it's scary and big and annoying and new and it will get you down but keep trudging forward. always explore, search for local stuff like on meetup, smores, even insta. it's so so so worth it. and even if it doesn't feel RIGHT, enjoy the adventure for now :)
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