Honesty hour: two things can exist at the same time, you could’ve rubbed this other person the wrong way, and you could be over thinking it. Strangers on the internet won’t be able to help you fully discern this since they weren't there(/genuine). And as cliche as it sounds, as much as you may be thinking about yourself and how you came off in this interaction, that‘s likely a shared experience(ie that person is only thinking about themselves). We‘re inherently very selfish people, regardless of our hypersensitivity/conscientiousness to social interactions. You’ll exhaust yourself worrying over how people actually feel about you(I say from experience). I doubt it impacted this person in the way it did you, so try to focus on how it affected you. You tried to be warm and safe, have comfort in that, regardless of how it came off.
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ok this is so rationally laid out and makes total sense <3 u guys are all seriously putting me at ease
6d ago
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Something that helps me a lot is reminding myself that we all tend to evaluate our own actions under a microscopic lens, observing problems that others would never pick up on because they’re not looking at us that closely. We tend to be much more critical of our own actions than those of others. And everyone does it! So reminding myself of this fact helps prevent me from spiraling.
ALSO: It can be very helpful to bring up a concern about something you did or said to a friend who was present at the time. 9/10 times they will tell you they hardly noticed it (if at all) and that it did not come off the way you feared. True friends will always accept you as you are and, as much as your anxiety brain would have you think otherwise, do not secretly hate you or think you’re lame!
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it probably didnt go as horribly as you think! you are your own worst critic
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i have totally been there, and i dont necessarily recommend doing what i did, but i eventually texted the person for Reasons, acknowledged that I humiliated myself, and they said they legitimately didn’t think about it or find what i did embarrassing at all, even if i believe that an objective source would disagree? not that they completely forgot, just that they didn’t think about it like that.
it’s annoying to hear, but you really are your own worst critic! and everyone does embarrassing shit, and something more embarrassing will happen to you eventually, and that’s okay! it’s part of being human i guess
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