as many very wise people have said comparison is the thief of fucking joy. I mean you hear these things time and time again but the validity of the statement never really reigns true until you are on the other side of it; in the muck, reflecting on all the ways in which you are not where you are "supposed" to be or meandering over the experiences everyone else around you has had. I won't lie to you and say that I fully believe that the derailments we face or the adversities one might endure are necessarily all products of "higher" teachings BUT I do believe that we rob ourselves of so much dignity when we use these hardships as anchors to what the rest of the world is pushing upon you. it is okay to take your time. it is okay to fail and not know how to pick back up the pieces. society SHOULD encourage everyone to move in accordance to their own natural rhythm and not make people conform into these perceived notions of growth. move at your own pace. we are all flailing around trying to figure this shit out. seek fulfillment as you chose. be gentler with yourself. being alive is already hard enough, and you've made it this far... and that pretty fucking incredible to me!
