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Itās not that easy. It takes work. And itās a power you must not abuse. But if you can give a fuck about the right things- your loved ones, your passions, the needs of an ailing world- and not about the wrong ones- OPP aka other peopleās perceptions- you are freed from a certain sort of tyranny and your life force will be tripled. Most people have inherited judgements about the world that even they donāt understand, so why should you? Youāre stronger, smarter and chicer than that! And youāll be shocked by how much of what you thought would always be your reality can be shifted using the renewed energy that comes from DGAF.Ā
Since life is not linear, sometimes youāll think youāve nailed not giving a fuck and then something anxiety inducing or unkind or even mundane but alarming will happen and you SUDDENLY really really do give a fuck. Thatās okay. But returning to a baseline level of DGAF is a good goal, so keep your eye on the prize.Ā
Actually, fuck it- who needs a prize anyway?
Since life is not linear, sometimes youāll think youāve nailed not giving a fuck and then something anxiety inducing or unkind or even mundane but alarming will happen and you SUDDENLY really really do give a fuck. Thatās okay. But returning to a baseline level of DGAF is a good goal, so keep your eye on the prize.Ā
Actually, fuck it- who needs a prize anyway?
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I was going to comment āI almost want to print this outā on this. While intending to do so, I thought to myself: this could be someone on the internet I could really connect to. Almost anticipating a friendship, or at least a back and forth, something. Then I saw it was Lena Dunham who wrote it. Checks out. So I remain a fan. And I donāt mind the intangibility. The words are enough. Cool cool cool. I go on with my day.
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Iām not gonna lie. Things are bad right now. Weāre disconnected from one another and it has fostered a hyper-individualism that borders on solipsism.
Ignorance, greed, and aggression are in good supply but they are also not new. There have always been people whoāve caused harm, but donāt let those people be the only ones who capture your attention and imagination.
There are people taking action every day in both big and small ways. There are people protesting, and fighting legal battles, and driving people to get safe abortions. And there are people who show tenderness to their children when they received none; people who check in on their elderly neighbor; people who give water, food, or money to an unhoused neighbor in need.
There is kindness all around us and itās happening all the time. Donāt lose sight of it and, most importantly, donāt lose hope. Another world is possible.
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š°Iāve really noticed myself struggling with confidence and making bold decisions. Showing up and taking up space. Zooming out has helped but what REALLY works for me is remembering that death and aging is a reality we will all face. There may or may not be life again after this. What harm would I do in this moment being my authentic self? Acting out on courage? Being bold and changing often? Will I turn 80 and realize how much I missed it all? And beyond the existentialism, how can I hold gratitude in the present moment? When dreading a walk; reminding myself that one day as Iām older a simple walk can become impossible. Even tomorrow, my entire life could change and I lose that simple privilege. (knock on wood). Even when youāre struggling financially/broke; how can you still bet on yourself and chase what you want? I think maybe just going after it no matter what? Idk. I know this is simple but just a reminder!!!
OUR LIVES ARE LEAVING US EVERY DAY. WE MUST ACT NOW & FAST! THERE IS AN URGENCY IN LIVING YOUR LIFE.
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š°i think every hippie iāve ever met has told me to practice gratitude, that my generally fleeting motivation is catalyzed in my lack of gratitude. what does that even mean?
i think, in a sudden restoration of motivation and a general decline in self-observed apathetic behavior, i found that i had been practicing gratitude and thus was relieved.
this morning i thought about a susan sontag quote.
āstay eagerā
thatās all she said.
stay eager. practice paying attention. practice being slow, being focused. practice tenderness, practice heartache, practice gratitude.
practice isnt made to be perfect. the definition is āthe actual application or use of an idea, belief, or method, as opposed to theories relating to it.ā
the goal is never perfect. the goal is movement.
apply gratitude. move with gratitude. move like the stars above you are having sex and consequently exploding all over everything. fuck like youāre eating. eat like you never learned how, like thereās a real chicken in your sandwich and not just manmade proteins that rot your liver and shit and make this planet uninhabitable.
move
forwards, backwards- itās not really even important. stagnance is the root of apathy. you need *inertia*. a still object will remain still.
move
wear makeup and make weird rules. i only write letters on sundays. i always put my left shoe on first. i only clip my nails when i play guitar. i only take a bath if ive done my sheets.
move
get up and stretch. get off instagram you stupid fuck. swear off of cussing. call someone you havent talked to in a long time.
move
because you have to. because you are hungry for more and feel the immense weight of the world pressuring you to eat, but, despite being famished, you have no appetite. because you miss who you used to be. because you are nostalgic for your younger self and want to bear children. because you like being alone.
practice
practice gratitude. practice being imperfect
perfectly imperfect
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mhahahahahhahahah
much love guys take care of your self fuck fascism ššš
i think, in a sudden restoration of motivation and a general decline in self-observed apathetic behavior, i found that i had been practicing gratitude and thus was relieved.
this morning i thought about a susan sontag quote.
āstay eagerā
thatās all she said.
stay eager. practice paying attention. practice being slow, being focused. practice tenderness, practice heartache, practice gratitude.
practice isnt made to be perfect. the definition is āthe actual application or use of an idea, belief, or method, as opposed to theories relating to it.ā
the goal is never perfect. the goal is movement.
apply gratitude. move with gratitude. move like the stars above you are having sex and consequently exploding all over everything. fuck like youāre eating. eat like you never learned how, like thereās a real chicken in your sandwich and not just manmade proteins that rot your liver and shit and make this planet uninhabitable.
move
forwards, backwards- itās not really even important. stagnance is the root of apathy. you need *inertia*. a still object will remain still.
move
wear makeup and make weird rules. i only write letters on sundays. i always put my left shoe on first. i only clip my nails when i play guitar. i only take a bath if ive done my sheets.
move
get up and stretch. get off instagram you stupid fuck. swear off of cussing. call someone you havent talked to in a long time.
move
because you have to. because you are hungry for more and feel the immense weight of the world pressuring you to eat, but, despite being famished, you have no appetite. because you miss who you used to be. because you are nostalgic for your younger self and want to bear children. because you like being alone.
practice
practice gratitude. practice being imperfect
perfectly imperfect
haha
hahahhhah
mhahahahahhahahah
much love guys take care of your self fuck fascism ššš
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This is Victor and Cherry:
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