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you forget how much love you are surrounded by when you're going through it! reach out to friends and ask to go for a drink, be outside with the world, sit in a park and read - be a part of something
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➿got this from the book "this is me letting you go" by heidi priebe - which i also very much recommend - but to paraphrase, she says sometimes the biggest things you miss from a relationship are needs that are no longer being met, or ways you showed up/things that were brought out of you with x person that you miss, maybe moreso than the person themselves.
So, if you always went to art shows, finding another friend to connect with over that. Or if you only showed your vulnerable side with that person, redirecting and learning how to meet those needs for vulnerability with others. If you always laughed together, maybe watch a standup special. or if they made you dinner after a long day, order takeout when it gets hard and show up for yourself. etc etc on small and large scales! this is what saved me from the hardest times.
Plus also truly time as has been said. it will ebb and flow and everything is temporary - you will feel light again when the time is right! ❤️🩹
So, if you always went to art shows, finding another friend to connect with over that. Or if you only showed your vulnerable side with that person, redirecting and learning how to meet those needs for vulnerability with others. If you always laughed together, maybe watch a standup special. or if they made you dinner after a long day, order takeout when it gets hard and show up for yourself. etc etc on small and large scales! this is what saved me from the hardest times.
Plus also truly time as has been said. it will ebb and flow and everything is temporary - you will feel light again when the time is right! ❤️🩹
Mar 26, 2025
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⭐- podcasts (I like the broski report and the basement yard)
- being around animals: go to dog parks, cat cafes, or just pet random animals that you walk past on the street
- meditation (sit quietly, deep breaths, calming music)
- social media (here, instagram, discord) start sending stuff to your old friends online if it’s too much to hang in person
I hope you feel better. I’ve been in a situation very similar to yours and I understand completely. It is so difficult to have to distance yourself from others when you still feel that loneliness. But, since you’re feeling better now, please please please start putting yourself out there again. I promise you that your friends still love you and want to be around you. But you have to be the one to bridge that gap that you created. I hope this helped :)
- being around animals: go to dog parks, cat cafes, or just pet random animals that you walk past on the street
- meditation (sit quietly, deep breaths, calming music)
- social media (here, instagram, discord) start sending stuff to your old friends online if it’s too much to hang in person
I hope you feel better. I’ve been in a situation very similar to yours and I understand completely. It is so difficult to have to distance yourself from others when you still feel that loneliness. But, since you’re feeling better now, please please please start putting yourself out there again. I promise you that your friends still love you and want to be around you. But you have to be the one to bridge that gap that you created. I hope this helped :)
Jan 8, 2025
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🫂i am so sorry! love is the sweetest thing! remind yourself the air you breathe in is not lost when you let it out!!! and you'll always breathe more back in. maybe sometime later you'll breathe in a puff of air you already inhaled before! such is love and its ever-present overflowing abundant nature.
my advice is to start doing new things from now that don't involve him, try not to talk to him about them at all, and try not to think of him while doing it. like a new hobby, or frequenting a new coffee shop, or volunteering somewhere, etc. it's like branching out from your current norm, creating something new and independent of the relationship, that is untouched/un-'tainted' kinda. it's like opening a new tab or window mentally. or creating new files. by the time you move away, and are going through it, you'll want a portion of your life you can resort to that is fresh and separate from the Big Sad, no matter how small. sending u hugs
my advice is to start doing new things from now that don't involve him, try not to talk to him about them at all, and try not to think of him while doing it. like a new hobby, or frequenting a new coffee shop, or volunteering somewhere, etc. it's like branching out from your current norm, creating something new and independent of the relationship, that is untouched/un-'tainted' kinda. it's like opening a new tab or window mentally. or creating new files. by the time you move away, and are going through it, you'll want a portion of your life you can resort to that is fresh and separate from the Big Sad, no matter how small. sending u hugs
May 6, 2024
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