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no shit..its my life so quite obviously the relationships in my life have to do with me? it doesnt mean im like some massive villain in the story dog it just means life is rough, emotions suck ass, and communication is a shit show. we humans fight each other, are scared of each other, struggle with insecurities that muck shit up, love, quit loving, etc etc etc we are ✨perfectly imperfect✨ so let’s wrap up the harmful 2014 tumblr self-hatred quotes y’all and give ourselves and others some grace cause shame is a killer
doesnt seem like advice outright but in the context in which this was said to me it was meant as such? or maybe more of a diss now that im thinking about it but it came from someone i considered as close as a brother and during a time i was reaching out for help so like horrible timing my guy, very much an anti-rec
Jul 22, 2025
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🗣rid yourself of the need for saving face with the use of therapy words. of course there’s nuance here, but not every conflict with a friend calls for boundary setting, flag raising, and accountability. accept the fact that humans are inherently flawed and that we’re all just doing our best.
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It fascinates me how a guy could yell at your face, call you the most degrading thing, make you cry and your blood boil only to hours later give a shitty apology like 'I don't have an excuse but I didn't mean what I said' like?? If you were truly sorry you'd reflect and grow from mistakes, rather than making empty promises and repeatedly doing the same thing. And no he's not a man in my book because a real one wouldn't be so belligerent.
'But Emmita it could just be his trauma making him act like this!!' Your trauma does not excuse how badly you treat others and it irks me that people will always try to escape accountability by blaming it on trauma. It does not define you first of all and it should not be your scapegoat.
There are fleeting moments where I fear for my future children, wish for everything I've got that they won't inherit the gene my father has that makes him so horrid. Only when I remind myself that we do not share flesh and blood can I feel the tension in my shoulders go away.
Why should I think I'm selfish for taking time for myself when I spent my life taking care of you?
So please make me the villain in your story, be angry for telling you the truth, be pissed I'm not letting your shit slide; I'd rather be evil than blind to my own actions. Especially when it's under the guise of 'good advice' or 'life experience'. You may praise God almighty, claim you're his favorite but you are by no means a saint, one who is excused.
Why do I cry for you? Why do I go to bed with a guilty conscience? Why was I taught I should?
'But Emmita it could just be his trauma making him act like this!!' Your trauma does not excuse how badly you treat others and it irks me that people will always try to escape accountability by blaming it on trauma. It does not define you first of all and it should not be your scapegoat.
There are fleeting moments where I fear for my future children, wish for everything I've got that they won't inherit the gene my father has that makes him so horrid. Only when I remind myself that we do not share flesh and blood can I feel the tension in my shoulders go away.
Why should I think I'm selfish for taking time for myself when I spent my life taking care of you?
So please make me the villain in your story, be angry for telling you the truth, be pissed I'm not letting your shit slide; I'd rather be evil than blind to my own actions. Especially when it's under the guise of 'good advice' or 'life experience'. You may praise God almighty, claim you're his favorite but you are by no means a saint, one who is excused.
Why do I cry for you? Why do I go to bed with a guilty conscience? Why was I taught I should?
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📬I notice it the most when people receive good things from other people. I think it's an offense, not only to yourself, but to the people who care about you as well. They have a nice image of you in their head. By saying you don't deserve it, etc., you undermine your own image and you question their perspective on you. Why wouldn't you trust them? If somebody decided to spend their money on you on a night out with nothing in exchange but company, wouldn't that be nice? The thought that you went out that day and that was enough justification for someone to deem you worthy of a nice meal. You were you and that's all it mattered.
Some may think it's narcissistic to think this way, or some may think I'm attaching the value people have of themselves to other people. I think it's about finding a balance. The value in the every day, hence the people surrounding you. Then again, if their heads went straight to these negative thoughts, they're probably self-deprecating themselves. Why would I trust that? Give yourself the grace you deserve by honoring the people who love you most.
Some may think it's narcissistic to think this way, or some may think I'm attaching the value people have of themselves to other people. I think it's about finding a balance. The value in the every day, hence the people surrounding you. Then again, if their heads went straight to these negative thoughts, they're probably self-deprecating themselves. Why would I trust that? Give yourself the grace you deserve by honoring the people who love you most.
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