Do you have one person in your life, a family member, acquaintance, co-worker etc who just rubs you the wrong way?
It’s not even like they’re really that bad of a person. Maybe they subtlety one-up your accomplishments, or always find themself the center of a new and totally-not-their-fault drama.
Maybe they‘re super kind and can’t seem to stop humbly accepting praise. Maybe they’re incredibly attractive but also according to them sooooo out of shape.
Maybe they’re that person from high school who always complained about how hard they had to work for everything despite being born with a silver spoon in their mouth.
Or maybe they’re that person that’s just so weird and quirky, but also can’t seem to take accountability and has absolutely no self awareness on how their actions affect others.
Did someone immediately pop into your mind?
CONGRATULATIONS! That is your Dinkleberg.
They are probably not even that bad of a person and perhaps you may even feel guilty for disliking them so much.
They may not even be in your life anymore- In fact, I haven’t seen mine in six years. But I still think about them far more often than is reasonable for a well adjusted person.
Finding your Dinkleberg is a freeing experience. Humans are so complex, allowing yourself to have one person you detest despite them having no outward character flaws is acknowledging the beauty that is existing as an irrational being.
You don’t have to be mean to them, and you certainly don’t have to tell them that they are your Dinkleberg. Just know in your heart of hearts you are allowed to dislike this person for no reason at all, and nobody can stop you. Give yourself permission to embrace the fact that they yuck your yum, and be at peace with it.
Authors note: if you have multiple Dinklebergs in your life, you may actually just be a hater.
