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how do people change?

I dont know who I am or why I do the things I do. I dont know why im here right now honestly.

@aminzwawi

1d ago

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@chronicwebuser

if you’re under 25 — ponder these things for sure but just keep going if you’re over 25 — it’s okay :) this is a part of figuring it out life changes you, people change you, but at the same time kinda like what @PLANETPOLA said, there’s a part of you that will always be you!

1d ago

@planetpola

I think about this all the time. I used to think it was a question of *if * people can change. Something that helped me was investigating which dimensions of a person are behavioral and which are just a part of their nature. I think parsing these two things helps us be more realistic about changing. There are some things about people that will never change, that are fundamental to who they are. We can regard those parts of ourselves with acceptance rather than fighting against them.

1d ago

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Trying to answer this made me realize that I really don’t have a solid answer.
I remember at my Dad’s funeral, the priest said, “I’m sorry, he was much too young” and he died in his 60s, so I started fixating on the amount of time we have and everything that we can do and how many lives we can touch, but that lost steam pretty quickly.
Then it was all about my little brother and helping him grow up and talking to him about my mistakes and just being a friend that I didn’t always have at his age, but if I’m being honest, sometimes that task starts to feel a little tall.
Right now, it’s probably the amount of love in my life. I think that 3, maybe even 2 years ago, I felt so lonely and like I had no place in anyone’s life, and it’s crazy to think that I don’t feel that anymore. I couldn’t visualize what my future could look like, and how many people I would love and how many of them would love me back, so now it’s about what else I’m not able to visualize yet that could still very well happen in my future.
And sometimes I just think, “damn I’ve been here for so long already and so much shit has happened, I just gotta see it through at this point. where else can the story go” and that kinda does it.
And I also think that if I really believe that we all have the capacity for change, I wanna see how often I can change and how much I can change and just seeing what I can do and what’s possible.
Long story short, I don’t really know and I’m not sure if I even answered your question (mostly because I can’t go back and check while writing this 😅) but I think that my answers change frequently and the longer I do it, I think the answers have started to come easier, and I hope in the future that they don’t need to be as substantial. Hoping a “just cuz” can get me by someday.

@burybusy

Mar 2, 2024

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i don’t know what i want to do with my life and i feel like im behind wherever i need to currently be — and the worst part is i don’t know where im meant to be