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I don’t mean this in a dark or morbid way – it’s just truly a great reality check. Time is precious. (And if you’re dealing with death or loss, I like to recommend The Dark Interval: Letters on Loss, Grief, and Transformation by Rainer Maria Rilke – a lovely collection of Rilke’s correspondences with bereaved friends and acquaintances during times of mourning).
Mar 23, 2023
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this is something i feel really strongly about to improve all of our lives and grieving processes. especially for Americans, it’s an enduring taboo that talking about death is too dark, too bummer, too disturbed. i think this renders all of us without a roadmap or community when, inevitably, someone dear to us dies.
practicing talking about it, building a distress tolerance to it, learning about other people’s experiences with death, are all some of the things that have helped me the most since my brother’s death. it truly is the most universal great mystery and i think we’d all be better for it to walk through it together.
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Feb 14, 2025
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not really a rec nor an experience that has an end date but it is part of being alive and it does make you understand certain things about your own life.
Feb 5, 2024
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I watched my brother die of cancer at 22 when I was twelve, as well as my uncle of brain cancer and a few other members of my family. I then had a similar type of rare sarcoma cancer that my brother did when i was 20, and I was just talking to friends about this last night!
I think the most powerful thing we can do as humans is understand our mortality. Once we understand that we're just meat sacks with no universal truth beside death, we can exist in a manner that aligns with meaningful connection.
I advise you tell people things you need to tell them, whether you love them or you think something they're doing is not serving them.
Be justified and trusting in all your decisions for yourself because you have to now.
I'm so sorry this is coming as a shock to you so suddenly. this is hard shit to reckon with at first. But just like my brother said while being interviewed on CNN during our MLB ballpark tour raising awareness in '06:
"I live every day like I'm dying"
Jul 25, 2024
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I love dropping GIFs into text exchanges for a little added flavor, especially during a “serious” or “business” conversation when the recipient least expects it. Everyone in my inbox knows my GIF game is strong – I am particularly fond of “The Godfather” and “Ari Gold”.
Mar 23, 2023
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I have a few fabulous mafioso characters in my life who recommend meeting in restaurants during the off hours – seemingly always in a booth – in order to really get down to business. It’s clear they’ve cut some serious deals when no one’s looking. Sometimes stepping outside the normal office setting is necessary. One of the mob’s many useful lessons.
Mar 23, 2023
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Especially in the film world where there’s often a feeling of scarcity, limited resources, and competitiveness, I’m a big believer in approaching people (friends, collaborators, acquaintances, strangers) with openness and a how-can-I-help attitude – it’s way more fun and interesting! In an industry that does not support up-and-comers, it’s important to remember there is room for everyone and we’re all in this together. Not to mention, being unkind, pretentious, or elitist is not actually cool and will not serve you well in the long run. People remember how you treat them.
Mar 23, 2023