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This zesty little book of aphorisms really makes you think about relationships. Namely, the book makes the convincing case indirectly that monogamy is an absurd paradox but there might not be another option. Paradoxes are scary but they are also interesting and sometimes even nice.
Oct 11, 2023
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On the sanitization of language.
It is not my intention to offend anyone with this piece, but I decided to use non-monogamous relationships as a catalyst through which we observe the sanitization of language and the evaluation of its consequences. I know this doesn’t only happen within this context but I chose it because of the way people seamlessly try to incorporate a specific type of lingo that, while at times expansive and illustrative, some other times there shows to be a constraint within it. I did my best to put into words my abstract thoughts, but you may not like it.
Feb 27, 2025
treating monogamy as the default structure for human relating feels so oppressive to me. to each their own, but i think we would all benefit from examining deeply held assumptions that influence how we show up in our relationships, and what we expect from our relationships. relevant for all kinds of attachment-based relationships, not just sexual/romantic ones.
Mar 6, 2024
A reminder that much of the coupling impulse (within romantic/sexual relationships, friendships, political groupings etc) is in a large part a reaction to the fear of loss/abandonment/loneliness, rather than a pure desire to exist in a relationship with someone. That so much of this requires a control and limiting of the actions and thoughts and desires of others, which prevents us from living as our actualised selves. even if u want to exist in close coupledom, worth a read and a think, it’s got some great ideas about the purpose of relationships and how generative/life-giving they have the potential to be 🤔
Oct 15, 2024
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Too obvious? That’s ok because Fernet is a godly drink. I’ve been drinking it since about eight years ago when my sister and I lived on the same block in bedStuy and we’d split most of a bottle on Sunday nights. She worked in the service industry then, where it was popular. It’s very hard to get a hangover from Fernet, which is highly herbal, unless you go absolutely ham. It’s also a good hangover cure in coffee. Pairs well with living your life.
Oct 11, 2023
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I would recommend my raw milk co-op but it’s illegal so I’ll keep it off the internet. This Lindy food is nourishing and delicious. My delivery comes every Wednesday. Raw butter on sourdough, kefir, and the cream is great with coffee. My delivery guy Ahmed is one of my oldest friends in New York and is a universally beloved figure to those who know him.
Oct 11, 2023
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Not technically for sale. And technically my family’s dog. However, Leo is a friend to all mankind. When I go home to Pennsylvania, he whips around the backyard to celebrate my return. I recommend everyone’s parents get a celebration Morkie (Maltese Yorkie.)
Oct 11, 2023