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Surprise party

I'm turning 24 in March, so I can relate. I actually hadn't done anything for my birthday since I was 16 until my last birthday. It was never really a big deal to me. My girlfriend threw me a surprise party, it was the nicest thing anyone had ever done for me. It was just a few friends over, some of whom I hadn't seen in ages. We had a few drinks, did karaoke, it was a really great time. Not sure if I'll do something this year, but it's important to celebrate every now and then.

@lowartdecay

Jan 8, 2025

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Joint bday parties

i feel like these get a bad rep but for anxious people who like an opportunity to divert attention, this is the perfect solution my good friend has the same bday as me and it makes me less sad about aging when i get to do it with them and focus some of my time on making sure they have a day that makes them feel special!!!

@cyberbully2011

Jan 10, 2024

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becoming a birthday person

manifesto forthcoming. i hear time and time again - “i’m not a birthday person.” as a convert, i’m here to challenge that limiting belief. not unlike new year‘s eve, getting your hopes up for a single night is futile. thus, i have the following advice: -embrace birthday week    month is a little much, even for me, but allow the week to be birthday-centric. this doesn’t have to be sunday to sunday; it can  consist of any of the surrounding days that feel relevant to THE day -multiple experiences   much like new year’s eve, hanging your hat on one night is doomed. thus, i recommend that you implement ALL (not some) of the following: INTIMATE DINNER +with partner, family, a couple of friends. something that feels low key and non stressful. great for a thursday or sunday night. let them know ahead of time (if they need reminding) that you would like a candle of some sort on a house dessert (is this too bossy?? NO! you’d do the same for the ones you love. next). (i also get desserts with candles the whole month, unabashedly. and do the same for loved ones.) SOLO DAY +plan things for yourself: solo lunch, matinee, massage. buy a fancy latte. take a cab. spare no expense; today you turn off the switch in your head that wonders if it’s worth it because it is. FRIEND DAY +have people over, meet at a bar, or throw a full on party. this is group time. i honestly recommend doing this one last. you’ll likely have enough fun with the other two events that this will feel like a cherry on top. ask your type A friend to help plan, if you need help, and remind them again ab some sort of treat w canes. this doesn’t have to be a blowout! tell everyone to bring whomever, +1s, enemies as it’s more-the-merrier vibes. tl;dr everyone deserves to be celebrated and there are people in your life eager to help you make it happen. ask for what you want. do the same for them down the line ❤️ ps my birthday is 3/17 if you need to start preparing pps bonus tip - pic is of last year’s birthday outfit. i also like to throw a very easy mini theme to get people thinking ahead of time (i said to wear silk, leather, or mesh. everybody looked hot) ppps i have so much more to say ab this, lmk if you want more 

@cameron

Feb 3, 2024

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discovering things by recs and not by algorithm

i love that this app can help me in my quest to rely on algorithms less and less. just good old fashioned word of mouth recs!!

@kateali

Jan 20, 2024

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going to the grocery store when you’re depressed and don’t want to get out of bed

i don’t know the science but it really helps especially if it’s trader joe’s

@kateali

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