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cured my diabolical response rate & choice fatigue on what to do while i shat at the same time. literally just go through all the messages you haven't responded to every time u poo, set aside that time in your day to tend to your body & your relationships
Jan 29, 2024
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i <3 toilet twitter. now i <3 toilet perfectly imperfect. lost in the sauce of the intornet
Feb 3, 2024
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📱nothing haunts you like the texts you don't answer. good communication can feel like a chore but maybe if we treat it more like a game it'll become easier.
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📞Suck it up and do it! It’s cleansing not to be a coward
Jun 14, 2025
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📲As someone who has been a historically negligent telecommunicator, this habit is definitely one that has required some intention and tlc in developing, but boy has it been worth it!
First and foremost, this is a bandwidth godsend.
By responding to messages as soon as you get them, you fulfill your immediate duty and free up that sweet sweet real estate.
But of course there are also many downstream benefits that I will cover in as soon as I qualify a bit and explain the practice.
Qualifiers:
Obviously dont stay glued to your device, or stop whatever you’re doing, or get into more involved discussion when it is not the time or place to do so. And also in dating I think there is a real value in the air that used to be so natural and implicit before texting.
The Practice:
Very simple. When an inbound comes in and you see it, simply take 5 seconds to 1 minute to read and respond to it. Most things I find can be answered with a yes, no, or maybe so. And if it can’t, a “can I call you later” or “good question 🤔” or “let me see” might do the trick. And finally, if none of these work go ahead and take your little time and respond later.
Downstream benefits:
People like it Things get sorted out faster Less falls through the cracks No apology texts or excuses less overthinking communications/more authenticity
Obviously there is no right or wrong way. I have a friend that goes read receipts, reads stuff, then, if needed, takes his time to get back to you. And I actually find that nice to be on the receiving end of because it’s always intentional.
But I’ve really enjoyed this way and practice and wanted to recommend it as it has added a lot of value in my life.
First and foremost, this is a bandwidth godsend.
By responding to messages as soon as you get them, you fulfill your immediate duty and free up that sweet sweet real estate.
But of course there are also many downstream benefits that I will cover in as soon as I qualify a bit and explain the practice.
Qualifiers:
Obviously dont stay glued to your device, or stop whatever you’re doing, or get into more involved discussion when it is not the time or place to do so. And also in dating I think there is a real value in the air that used to be so natural and implicit before texting.
The Practice:
Very simple. When an inbound comes in and you see it, simply take 5 seconds to 1 minute to read and respond to it. Most things I find can be answered with a yes, no, or maybe so. And if it can’t, a “can I call you later” or “good question 🤔” or “let me see” might do the trick. And finally, if none of these work go ahead and take your little time and respond later.
Downstream benefits:
People like it Things get sorted out faster Less falls through the cracks No apology texts or excuses less overthinking communications/more authenticity
Obviously there is no right or wrong way. I have a friend that goes read receipts, reads stuff, then, if needed, takes his time to get back to you. And I actually find that nice to be on the receiving end of because it’s always intentional.
But I’ve really enjoyed this way and practice and wanted to recommend it as it has added a lot of value in my life.
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đź’Źone night stand or future spouse nothing beats the anticipation.... the build...... the mystery revealed.....
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đź“ the old-fashioned way, like you would before the entire internet was monopolised into basically three conglomerates. why would you spend all your time on your computer swapping between instagram tiktok youtube pinterest when you could find some of the coolest websites you've never heard about learning information your algorithm would never feed to you!!!!
a good place to start is your favourite artist's websites (not just musicians!) sometimes they have blogs (especially if they're writers) and often they link websites they like.
I also like magazine websites - the face, angel food, hot literati
or craigslist missed connections. I check the new york section all the time