I spent most of my life thinking they were cat food at best. But I visited Clydes one day for bivalves and martinis and tried their new conservas menu. Now I am watching tinned fish reviews and eating all kinds of sardines.
this involves DEVELOPING YOUR DISCERNMENT AND DISCOMFORT TOLERANCE SKILLS! is that person morally evil or just not your cup of tea? are they trying to make you feel uncomfortable or are they also maybe a little nervous and doing their best?
we could really change the landscape of what community looks like if we open ourselves up to the idea of consistently offering respect and dignity to others even when we’re not dying to become their best friend, and joyfully sharing space with someone we might not ever know more than as an acquaintance. those are members of your community too!
this also allows for change over time- in the individual and in your own perspective and capacity for connection.
saying thank you to every single staff member on my way in and out !! excuse me please and thank you patrons for letting me squeeze past! i am just rolling in gratitude i love it here
or whichever app is your go-to for numbing! currently reading the new Dean Spade (love in a fucked up world) and felt soooo moved by the 2nd chapter on patterns of behavior that we use to numb/dissociate (such as repeatedly opening an app/scrolling it with no intention) anytime i delete the app off my phone im amazed at how much free time and attention it feels like i have to share.
