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ok that sounded more depressing than what i meant. sometimes clinging to a certain image of things in your head and comparing everything in your present to it just holds you back from appreciating your current reality. is it an actual goal you are willing to work towards or just escapism???
Feb 8, 2024
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This might not necessarily apply to your situation, but I figured Iād share my thoughts anyway.
Often I think we buy into narratives we impose on ourselves about what will make us truly happy or content. People spend a lot of their lives chasing some lofty goal, often at great personal cost, both mental and physical. And once they get there, the result might not even be that great. There might be some complications that were never considered. Or, the day-to-day reality of the dream made manifest isnāt as glamourous or fulfilling as we thought it would be.
Iām not saying you need to disregard your aspirations. But I think itās good to have an open mind about potential futures, even beyond what you see as being immediately fulfilling, or the ātruestā version of yourself. I know itās hard in our world to conceive of our self-worth outside of what we spend a great deal of our time doing. At the same time, I think itās possible to strike a balance between what we think we want and what ends up making us happy.
Hope that makes sense.
Nov 7, 2024
i think settling into your life is a feeling that creeps up on you. as someone who struggles with being present, i need to constantly practise gratitude or even my dream life kinda passes me by. i think it's human nature to be constantly looking for the next best thing, but it takes a lot of awareness to realize you've already made it on so many facets. thinking about my younger self and the pride they'd feel looking at present me is grounding and brings me lots of perspective.
Feb 18, 2025
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I love my life, so this isnāt in an escapism sort of way. I more so can feel what my life wouldāve been like in different scenarios. I can sense what it wouldāve been like if I went to vet school in Vermont, or if I had actually left my abusive ex that chilly night in October, or if I had gone to art school in DC, or moved to Portland instead of staying in Chicago and going to therapy. I like to think that all of those versions are happening in different timelines š§¬
Sep 16, 2024
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I love doing collages, cuz all you really need are magazine cutouts and glue. There's a very low barrier to entry, skill-wise AND supply-wise, unlike painting. Digital collages are fun too, but I try to have less screentime by doing the paper ones. If I want to re-use pieces instead of gluing them down permanently, sometimes I'll just take a picture of the current arrangement to immortalize it, and then start over on a new composition. That way, I don't have to constantly buy new magazines to get new cutouts. This is one of my favorite ones I've done so far:
Aug 22, 2024
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This is the only thing that keeps me sane at work. It's so slow right now. If anyone is wondering why I've posted like 9 times today.
Mar 9, 2025
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i always get stuck choosing which stuff to watch/read/get into next when i look at my huge former watchlists & TBR's. a lot of items are things i put on there years ago and never got around to, so usually by the time i check the list again, my tastes have totally changed. i realized it was hard to get myself excited or motivated about half the stuff i put on there anymore, but i felt indebted to knocking it out anyway just because it was on the list. i'd recommend letting your current feelings/impulses take the wheel, and trust that you'll come back around to any of the other options if they're right for you later on.
Apr 18, 2024