This might not necessarily apply to your situation, but I figured Iād share my thoughts anyway.
Often I think we buy into narratives we impose on ourselves about what will make us truly happy or content. People spend a lot of their lives chasing some lofty goal, often at great personal cost, both mental and physical. And once they get there, the result might not even be that great. There might be some complications that were never considered. Or, the day-to-day reality of the dream made manifest isnāt as glamourous or fulfilling as we thought it would be.
Iām not saying you need to disregard your aspirations. But I think itās good to have an open mind about potential futures, even beyond what you see as being immediately fulfilling, or the ātruestā version of yourself. I know itās hard in our world to conceive of our self-worth outside of what we spend a great deal of our time doing. At the same time, I think itās possible to strike a balance between what we think we want and what ends up making us happy.
Hope that makes sense.
Nov 7, 2024
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I think continually asking why you want something can help with this. When you do, you may realize the āitā you want is rooted in other people: how theyāll perceive you, if youāll be accepted by them, etc. The older Iāve gotten Iāve been better at untangling some of my desires from the ego and I think it has lead to better self-satisfaction of where I am at and where I am going. itās also allowed me to ālet goā of some dreams. Thatās sounds negative or sad but I donāt mean it so: sometimes you white-knuckle-grip an idea of yourself so hard that it destroys you! I think āletting goā doesnāt mean things wonāt happen, it means they donāt have to and that pressure alleviation can make all the difference.
Thatās not to say to never let the drive of the ego take overā¦Iām not sure we would create art/great things without it. I guess what Iām saying is that knowing the root of our desires is a key to balance and self-assuredness.
Feb 18, 2025
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ok that sounded more depressing than what i meant. sometimes clinging to a certain image of things in your head and comparing everything in your present to it just holds you back from appreciating your current reality. is it an actual goal you are willing to work towards or just escapism???
Feb 8, 2024
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I ought to set myself goals.
I've been feeling so fleeting, like I have a lack of control, I'm just being pulled in whichever way life pulls me. I find myself doing things because thats what I'm supposed to do, that's what would align best with the idea I have of what life should be.
So today I was telling my boyfriend this, and he shared that I should set myself goals. That way, I'll feel a greater sense of ownership of what I do. I already do a lot of things, but now when I do something, it will be because it will help bring me closer to the goal I decided to achieve.
As a result I know I'll feel greater satisfaction with myself, because I am living consciously. Like I DID THAT!!! I KNEW I COULD DO THAT!!!
Is this what it means to reach a higher consciousness?
Heres to being present in our lives š„āØ
Feb 23, 2025
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Late to this but holy cow. I couldnāt be more enamoured with the tones and textures of this EP. Each track is a banger and inventive in its own way. Boldly charts a course for pop music.
Highlights: āHell of a Rideā, āPoison-Soakedā, āHad Ya Calledā
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Iām still watching them even tho October is over wtf??? I just canāt get enough. Recent greats include:
Noroi: The Curse (2005)
- Found footageā¦ the climax is so good. Great for fans of ghost/demon stuff.
Pulse (2001)
- One of my favourite horror movies ever. Worms its way into your being. Some truly terrifying, iconic scenes and imagery, not to mention quite prescient in its message re: online connectivity and society. Really canāt sing its praises enough!
Ju-On: The Grudge (2002)
- A classic!!! Still hits. Quintessential haunted house domestic strife ghost story. Toshio š¢šāā¬
Audition (1999)
- Probably my least favourite of this batch. Not for the squeamish. Still worth a watch if only for its feminist social commentary.
GonJiam: Haunted Asylum (2018)
- OK this one is admittedly kinda hokey but itās based off a REAL location and the jump scares are amazing!! Some truly spine-tingling moments. Not recommended just before bed lol š¬ (Also found footage)
Nov 22, 2024