If any other 12 year old, 17 year old, 20 year old made the same mistakes I did and told me, I wouldnât judge them. I think laughing at and making fun of kids with negative judgment is loser behavior and I hold them standard to how I view myself. This has helped me a lot as I move into and through my 20s. Give yourself grace. Not all lessons are meant to be learned right away and not always just once. Itâll make sense when you need it. Or at least I hope it will.
Feb 8, 2024
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Adulting is a process. Iâm far from having it âtogetherâ but I have gotten better at say, filing taxes on time, balancing school and gym time, cooking, and keeping the house clean. None of these pieces came together at once, it was a process of learning each and making it a habit.
Lifelong learning a part of life. One thing Iâve learned through growing up is greater empathy for my parents. My mom was young when she had me and every time my birthday comes around, I realize how much she was doing at my age. (I donât have kids, I donât want kids, I respect people who choose to have kids, thatâs incredible but Jesus itâs a LOT of work)
Take it slow. Give yourself room to breathe. Love yourself. You have the rest of your life to perfect your habits and become good at âadultingâ.
Jul 6, 2024
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youâre not in denial about your feelings! and you shouldnât be because thereâs nothing wrong with feeling the way you do especially because you want to change this train of thought.
iâm 26, lived a very sheltered life and would probably be what may be considered a âlate bloomerâ. couple that with only going to community college and graduating in the midst of lockdowns, i âlostâ even more of my âyounger yearsâ. when i was 21-24, i definitely let those same emotions run their course on me. i used to get pretty upset even watching coming of age movies or watching college kids go about their day to day lives. i realized i didnât want that feeling to run my life.
as harsh as it sounds, you just have to remind yourself that you cannot go back in time. youâll waste more time wallowing than you will growing and learning and exploring, causing you to internalize these negative feelings more. go out and explore and make mistakes and make sure to surround yourself with people are accepting of the fleeting nature of life as well.
also, you have so much adulthood ahead of you. 23 is not much in the grand scheme of things. iâm sure there are people 20, 30, 40+ years older than you who havenât worked through this thought process yet and are jealous of your youth. from where i stand right now, and based off those i know who are older than me, you never really stop learning how to be an adult.
all in all, there is no switch to turn off your emotions, so i know itâs easier said than done. 23 in general seems to be a rough year existentially for many, so just know youâre not alone, especially in the current cultural context. aging is a gift! so try to accept that gift gracefully by going easy on yourself.
Jul 11, 2024
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I have had to learn to give myself grace and allow myself to grow. I tend to be hard on myself and want to find the quickest way to success. I know success takes time and I must be patient with myself. I am working on comparing myself less and truly trying to work on myself. I've found that getting into a routine has been the most helpful thing I can do for my mental health. I've learned how to say no and set boundaries for myself to avoid burn out. The 20s are such an interesting time, my mantra: you cannot worry about the things you have zero control over <3
Jan 4, 2025
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lol is a punctuation mark
Mar 29, 2024
Everyone needs to listen to this album at least once. Paul Simonâs lyricism and musicality is so refreshing.
Personal top 2 tracks (in no particular order)
Graceland & I know what I know
Dec 3, 2024
Let the choir sing in rejoice, Joni Mitchell is back on Spotify folks. And while some music heads might be tripping over themselves to stream the legendaric Blue 1971 album, you can catch me at the sonic jazz bar that is Both Sides Now. You might be familiar with this re-recorded track and album from the iconic Emma Thompson scene in 2001âs Christmas cult classic Love Actually but this album is so much more. If youâre a jazz enjoyer, or maybe not so into Americana folk, and wanna know what all the Joni-craze is about: this is the album for you.
I recommend listening no earlier than dusk and maybe after a little bit of a hard day.
Mar 24, 2024