if an asshole is someone who throws a temper tantrum on the regular and who treats your interactions transactionally babies and even cute old people qualify. there is something to be said for a seeming loss of trust (from the knocks of life experience), openness (the degree of this depends on childrearing and epigenetics) and innocence (as magical thinking is replaced be logic-learnings). Fight your internal urge to prejudge, force yourself to engage new experiences and people outside your tribe, age, demographic and your world will truly stay magical:)
Feb 8, 2024
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I’m not a parent and do not plan to be. Kids can wear me out fast with their high energy and noise level; it leaves me very over-stimulated. But it’s pretty extreme when people say they ”hate kids” and I often feel it’s a reflection of their childhood and beliefs around how kids “should be.” That they were expected to be quiet, obedient, and out of the way by their parents when they were little.
It’s fucking hard to be a kid. You’re dealing with a rapidly-changing body and underdeveloped brain, managed by flawed adults who are enforcing boundaries that you do not understand. It’s confusing and hard to manage your feelings and honestly just a lot.
People are impatient with kids when they‘re brand new to the world and figuring it all out, and this is a time kids need a friend the most. Children can also be teachers to adults with how they are less habituated to the world. They teach us how to be free and open-hearted and silly and imaginative.
A good practice is to be kinder and gentler with kids. If that feels difficult, start with gentleness toward your inner child. Maybe that’s the child in your life that needs your attention and kindness most.
Apr 16, 2025
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instead i like to think “damn kid go off, do that while you can” or, “me too buddy, me too”. it’s only such a short time in ur life when u can go out into the world and scream and cry and wail when you feel so moved. and good for them! i miss those days sometimes, and none of this stimuli is even new to me anymore. anyway, they certainly don’t know much better, and crying babies are an inevitability of life, so how could i be bothered? parents have enough to worry about without grown people being babies about their babies
Feb 3, 2024
I don't care if people think it's childish, but I do care that young adults/adults have been socialized to believe that imaginative play is only for children. Go heal your inner child and mind your own business.
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Apr 14, 2024
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they loss, just a redirect. find volunteer work even if it is 1 hour a week. compartmentalize the online job searching and force activities that bring pleasure, ideally irl. Freedom isn’t exactly free but time is all we have so in a way congrats on the new wealth. Hope you find formidable fit at your next place of employ!
Apr 19, 2024