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'TO BE CLEAR, the girl is not an inherently emancipatory subject. As a symbolic-consumer subject, she is the default condition of vulnerability that touches us allâcreatures caught in a web of total exposure, vying for both privacy and visibility. Privacy, to retain some semblance of agency; visibility, to access money, respect, and basic rights. To be a good girl, you have to pass muster in the system of eyes. You have to feed cash into âfeminizationâ to be both realâconvincing, relatableâand not-real, alluringly ideal.'
Feb 21, 2024
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Technology is not only the subject of cyberfeminism, but its means of transmission. Itâs all about feedback.
Mindy Seu's invaluble resource
Nov 12, 2024
"Beauty privilege is very real. None of us are imagining it, and if we arenât born genetic lottery winners, our only option is to compensate with style, grace, and charm. Of course, none of that shit comes cheap. Thatâs kind of the whole point. Itâs all meant to be aspirational and exclusionary. Weâre supposed to feel depressed by our skin, agitated by our bodies, and anxious about our invisibility. Thatâs the insidious subtlety of social control.
The worst part is that we know in our rational minds that itâs all bullshit, and yet weâre still plagued with self-loathing when we canât live up to unattainable beauty standards. No matter how much self-acceptance we achieve, we can still look in the mirror and instantly catalog all the things about ourselves that we donât think measure up. Itâs maddening. It makes us feel like hypocrites even though itâs not our hypocrisy."
â The Coquette, Ugly-Sexy: Cool? | Adult Mag (2014)
Oct 2, 2024
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And choice feminism turned it into a matter of individuality rather than systemic issues, while also making it essentially forbidden to critique anything and positioning any criticism as an act of internalized misogyny. As a society we also take for granted the rights women gained (not even that long ago!), and dismiss the ways less privileged women are still exploited. And when feminism became associated with âsexual empowermentâ that ultimately serves the male gaze (ex free the nipple), we reinforced the societal value of beneficial sexism, and feminism had to be sexy. Pop feminism is no longer a materialist ideology. This has all led us to the current Evie Magazine right wing trad-wife backlashâŠ
All of that is to say that Iâm here đ𫶠lol but I actually love Sara Petersenâs Substack and through her you can discover a lot of other really amazing writers
Jan 15, 2025
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one night stand or future spouse nothing beats the anticipation.... the build...... the mystery revealed.....
Jul 23, 2024
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builds character
Apr 2, 2024
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the old-fashioned way, like you would before the entire internet was monopolised into basically three conglomerates. why would you spend all your time on your computer swapping between instagram tiktok youtube pinterest when you could find some of the coolest websites you've never heard about learning information your algorithm would never feed to you!!!!
a good place to start is your favourite artist's websites (not just musicians!) sometimes they have blogs (especially if they're writers) and often they link websites they like.
I also like magazine websites - the face, angel food, hot literati
or craigslist missed connections. I check the new york section all the time
Oct 8, 2024