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knee-length skirts

I’m trying to pinpoint what is making me so uncomfortable about the discourse around modest dressing. The common thought is that modesty is an indicator of rising conservatism, but right now, I see the trends as a correlation that does not imply causation.  A lot of the current modest silhouettes started in queer, leftist spaces. I remember the rise of “cottage core” around 2020 was largely led by lesbians. Women in flowy milkmaid dresses foraging for herbs and berries in a hazy forest. It felt like a movement reclaiming the femininity of mother nature after enduring so much masculine energy from the political onslaught being fed to us. On the opposite end of the spectrum, the menswear trend can also be attributed to queer women. It’s inherently liberal for a woman to wear men’s clothing. Maybe it’s a case of intention vs impact. Or of Kristin Stewart vs Chanel.  I also have opinions on how this general rise in conservatism is a response to the constant overstimulation of American society. People are resorting to an “every man for themselves” rhetoric, sacrificing empathy for comfort. This has translated into the trad-wife idolization. What’s more comfortable than being a trophy wife. I understand that fashion reflects the political climate, so I see what’s happening. I only wish there was more nuance to the discussion. Modesty is not inherently red. 

@haileyd4wn

Mar 17, 2025

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Bad feminist by roxanne gay

Nothing new if you’re into feminist discourse but has some funny moments and interest points

@jdough

Mar 1, 2024

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inessential woman by eliszabeth v. spelman

This book blends conversation on feminism within the context of other social issues and gives insight into feminist philosophy whilst also serving as analysis for the dominant paradigms in feminist debate, such as which women are centered in the critique and analysis of gender, sexuality etc in society

@ngaatee

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Starting over

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.” — Anaïs Nin This is uncharacteristically raw and personal, even for me, and pretty heavy! I know many of you have seen me posting through it and I feel safe to talk about it openly now that I’ve safely landed at the start of my new life. It’s honestly even a little bit embarrassing but I think it’s important to share. I’ve never publicly mentioned it on here, but I have a husband; as of Friday, we’d have been together for 11 years, and we’ve been married for 3 years as of 2/22. I realize now that I wanted to explore what I looked like outside of my relationship with him because I had lost that. This is why PI.FYI has been so meaningful to me as a space to express myself and connect with people—to rediscover my voice. I had been living a lie this entire time, to others but worst of all to myself. He’s been verbally and emotionally abusive, physically but without touching me, to the point that every day I spent with him I was in danger. I’ve been shrinking myself and walking on eggshells to avoid making him insecure and provoking his casual put-downs and fits of rage, while hanging on for dear life to the threads of good I could see. I’ve wanted so badly to leave, more than anything, but I felt like there was no way out and that this was just something I would need to endure indefinitely—but someone who is so very dear to me helped me see that I have wings to fly, not by acting as my savior but by reminding me of my own power. The emotional safety they built and the gentle care they showed me made me feel like I could open up to them. With their encouragement I was brave enough to tell the truth to my friends, my family, my boss, and they have received me with warm, loving and open arms and rallied to support and protect me. The financial and  logistical aspects were the most intimidating to me and it’s going to be tough for a while but I’m going to be better than okay! Now I’m opening up to you. This isn’t the only abuse I’ve suffered in my life, and my old therapist told me she believed it was my mission to share my strength and light with others to inspire them and show them that change is possible. I hope that by sharing this, I can reach even just one person who is going through something similar and show that they are not alone, and they are not weak. People with certain backgrounds may be more vulnerable to abuse, but it can happen to anyone. It thrives in darkness, shame, and isolation—and breaking that silence is the first step toward freedom. Leaving is the scariest thing I have ever done but I have so many angels around me, and I am endlessly grateful. Thank you for being here with me 💌

@taterhole

Mar 16, 2025

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Never changing

My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌

@taterhole

Feb 23, 2025

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Finally Quitting the job that you hate

Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ✅💅

@taterhole

Feb 27, 2025