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open invite

I celebrated my 21st in January There’s a bar near my university that has “wine Wednesday“ which is $5 for a really heinous bottle of wine. Most ppl go regularly already bc there’s pool, cheap drinks, and it’s within walking distance of campus. Vibes are less than great but that’s beside the point lol. My 21st fell on a Wednesday, and all I knew is that I did not want to get my expectations up. That would only lead to birthday blues. So I figured I would just invite my inner circle to come celebrate with me at wine Wednesday. Which turned into me inviting anyone i thought was cool/ wanted to be friends w. My close friends also brought their respective friend groups. I got dressed up cute, got to the bar at 10, and throughout the night got to say hi to ppl as they came and went. it took all the pressure off of me to entertain or make sure ppl were getting along. bc everyone had their own peeps to talk to and different activities to entertain themselves w. The bartender gave me free shots and the DJ let me play whatever I wanted. It was a great time and way more ppl than I thought came through. i corralled my close ppl for a group pic and after that everyone had their own fun time Allowing me to Irish exit to partake in some more illicit stuff and I ended my night drunk beyond belief tagging in a train yard w one of my friends I will be celebrating in this style going forward, it was great, and now there are at least a dozen train cars that say “happy 21st birthday Sophia” w my or my friends tag :D ALSO IF NO ONE YAKS ON UR 21st U DIDNT DO IT RIGHT

@phianeversleeps

Jun 7, 2024

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21st birthday on a call w a friend

maybe it’s the joy on my face or maybe it’s the fact that i know exactly what happened for this picture to occur, but, man, i love it. nothing like being 21, drunk, and sweaty staring at all of your friends from your apartment’s alley and getting a half-eaten slice of homemade cake shoved in your hands. i had called my friend who left the party bc he got too high and was scared of all the people hahaha. he never did end up coming back. this is still a night i’m very grateful for and i’m happy to have this moment captured. thank you, stringbean501

@radeline

Apr 9, 2024

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MY BIRTHDAY PARTY

I have so many of these because I hoard my favorite moments like a dragon. But I've limited myself to one. This is a disposable camera photo of the first birthday party / dinner party I threw myself in college. My roommate, two of my friends, and my cousin all came early to help me set up and finish cooking things. Whirling around getting dressed and setting up with that small group was so fun. And of course the party itself was a delight although I think my social battery died a little too quick after spending most the day prepping. But even then it was still nice to be surrounded by people who wanted to come to my birthday party and all the food me and my friends made. I was very proud of it. I don't usually do anything big for my birthday because I like spending it just doing little fun things for myself I've been meaning to do like trying a new place or buying a limited edition ice cream flavor or something. And things like this can be a lot of time and energy. But I like getting friends together and so I went for it that year. I also had to wait so long for these photos to come back because I had to use up the film roll first. And then CVS said they could only give us the photos on CD and I didn't want to hunt down a CD reader on campus so I mailed it out to a company that emailed me the photos. So by the time I had the rolls developed it was already kind of a nice throwback with photos from that night that I had never seen before.

@moonbeams

Apr 7, 2025

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Talk shit about systems… not people

sometimes you gotta talk shit to process but often I think we talk too much shit…. At the end of the day we’re all human beings who are trying the best with what they’ve got. if someone is annoying you/acting mean/unkind it’s most likely all connected to a larger system that did not set them up for success. Instead of shit talking the rude waiter, celebrity drama, your friends annoying partner— let’s break down systems that are holding us all back!!!! or the systems that are probably holding that person back! Let’s give grace to humans and question the larger systems that generate more trauma and disconnect! that’s how we generate more love and compassion and move things forward some of my favorite systems to talk about are: •industrialized food and food accessibility •consumerism/overconsumption (and the connection to social media & celebrity culture) •hustle culture •politics/2 party system •cars/walkable cities/big oil •big dairy •Christianity plz comment ur fav system to break down / talk about with ur friends i love this stuff….

@ayanah

Apr 28, 2024

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Believing you *really* can do ANYTHING you want

what’s it gonna hurt!! you are power, you are a piece of the sun, you are as great as you believe you are! Fake that ego until it’s real. your inner voice is an insanely loving mother that only sees the good. it may feel silly at first… but you are as capable as anyone, so let yourself believe that you are! isn't that the first step in getting anything you want?

@ayanah

Mar 6, 2024

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Listen / talk to people you disagree with

Thats How we unite and learn and grow!! I swear people are usually kinder than we think they are. it’s so beautiful to find middle ground

@ayanah

Dec 20, 2024