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maybe a crush, maybe an ex, maybe someone you're beefing with; either way, turning off their text alerts rocks. with some getting used to, you won't keep constantly checking for a message from them to come through but you'll still get notifications from the people who don't make you nervous. makes it way easier to stop thinking about when their next text might come through and if it does, you'll more than likely stumble across it organically. if you're doing something important, you'll be guaranteed not to have it interrupted by a wave of digital anxiety.
similar rec is turning off badges for your messages app. who cares if that number goes up! none of my business
Mar 13, 2024
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both notification center and badge app icons. can literally feel the cortisol in my body go down. i’ll get to your message when i decide to gaf which will be NEVER ❌
Mar 8, 2025
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do you really need to know if someone is TYPING?!! that buzz buzz buzz does my head in; like literally grates my brain. seek your info, don't get it fed to you. you don't always have to be in the know.
Jan 29, 2024
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okay i got some really amazing advice from fellow piffers a few weeks back when i was drowning with texts AND felt like a dick for telling my friends and family that getting their messages made me want to kms lol. but being honest about how i felt is super helpful so i don’t become a ball of rage. usually in a more gentle way, but being honest that texting isn’t a great way to connect with me is v important to foregrounding my relationships nowadays.
do not disturb really helped me take away from feeling constantly available to people. i see their texts when i get the time to, not when they *need* or *want* me to. removing the feeling of being obligated to someone’s messages has made me feel less awful about texts and calls. esp bc i am busy so often that their messages used to interrupt my day, my flow, my viiibbbee.
still trying to figure out why relationships feel like obligations to me rn… i feel like that is the core issue of my rage/anxiety feelings from texts and calls.
Nov 19, 2024
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Feb 24, 2024
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they're just some guy. but they're also cute and nice and make u feel admired and don't judge u for all the things u judge urself for. u can show them all your favorite things and learn all of theirs and also u can kiss them
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