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My style evolution has been a journey…

I used to live in an extremely hot sunny dry climate and loved to show a lot of skin. I went through phases of different styles just trying things out. Junior year of high school people called me the sexy librarian; senior year my favorite style in high school was kinderwhore which gave off strange mixed messages and intimidated people I think but it was also appropriate for my off-putting hostile personality. I wore a lot of very short skimpy dresses or lingerie with sheer black tights and big sweaters on top and I loved to play with textures and layering. A family friend who was a semi famous musician in the 1990s-2000s was obsessed with my style and wanted to hire me as his assistant because he thought I was cool which i appreciated because none of my peers told me that to my face lol. When I was a teenage dirtbag my everyday summer uniform was high-waisted denim short shorts, some variation of a Breton top, tank top + open chambray top layered on top, or see-through white drapey t-shirt/tank top with trashy lacey black bralette peeking through. Sometimes I would mix it up and wear a tutu. I wore low-top black converse or the Doc Martens Darcie boot. My friends and I thought we were the characters in Kids (1995) so that was quite the lifestyle. Started to dress more feminine/glamorous and got really into wearing lush fabrics and vintage furs. Then I went back to a more androgynous look and would usually wear just high-waisted skinny pants of some kind with a black blazer. Then for a while I had a bohemian free spirit kind of vibe. Wore a lot of miniskirts dressy tank tops and cropped blazers with sheer tights and heeled boots. then I started to examine the contradiction between my attention seeking clothing and my distaste for being openly ogled in public by strangers and decided to try dressing more modestly. Overcorrected to a minimalist somewhat conservative style of dress and looked frumpy and shitty all the time but did command respect from people. Read about the Kibbe system (if you search you’ll probably find my post about it) and saw that I’m a theatrical romantic and that David Kibbe recommends that I wear delicate flowy clothing that accentuates my shape rather than trying to balance it out or cover it. I gave away like 80% of my wardrobe and now I’m in the process of figuring out what that looks like in a way that I’m comfortable with, finding the balance between drawing attention and trying to completely hide myself. For casual wear I’m mostly wearing high-waisted skinny jeans, camisoles with lace trim, and usually some kind of cropped jacket on top. Still love to wear maximalist glam clothes and lots of furry textures in the winter. I have mostly followed a strict no athleisure no tennis shoes policy for most of my adult life. I like to wear leather slip-on shoes with a moderate stacked heel. Feeling drawn back to bomber jackets. Experimenting with drawstring waist and paper bag waist pants that are tapered at the ankle. Considering buying harem pants. I’m thinking I will probably go back to a more bohemian style to project my inner warmth and affability instead of scaring people away by appearing cold and standoffish. so it’s a work in progress of getting my swag back…

@taterhole

May 5, 2024

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my life changed for the better when i stopped dressing to look as small as possible

I have thought about this at length, I fear. I want to look and feel at ease in my clothes and I shop for clothing very intentionally. For me the rules of outfits are: - No single-designer looks - Steam/press rarely - No logos (sneakers are the exception) - Always wear at least 1 garment with visible wear or damage - Get dressed intentionally every day - It does not matter how conventionally flattering the look is. I care only about how it makes me feel in my body - Never clean Ur (my) shoes except to keep leather in condition I shop almost exclusively second hand and in person—I only buy if I would be heartbroken to come back for a garment to find it had passed me by forever. Most pieces I see are effectively one-offs because I treat them this way. I am attracted to Japanese workwear silhouettes, modular garments, and drama. “My” colour is the shade precisely between yellow and orange. All my jewelry is gifted. I aim to keep garments until the end of their lives.

@cilantro

May 5, 2024

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Still trying to find a cohesive style

comfort has been my main focus since i was a toddler & i’m trying to honor that intuition in adulthood. i want to feel comfortable in my own skin & wardrobe, which is a challenge as a bigger woman raised in purity culture & fashion as vanity. i’m still most comfortable in modest looks & don't see that changing. the quality & texture of fabric is important to me as well. i don’t like anything that tugs or clings in an irritating way. i’m also pragmatic so i want functional clothing that will last & i'm trying to build my mending & maintenance skills. i love leather shoes & bags, they’re so warm & classic & durable. i love buying thrifted things that have some life in them already. i love having one-of-a-kind pieces that i can make my own. i often feel stuck between wanting to express myself through style & wanting to be as nondescript as possible. i like the validation of a good fit but also hate making an entrance. sometimes i’ll put together a look i love & then i’ll swap out one of the elements to ruin it cuz i feel too intimidated. i don’t know if this is because of social anxiety or body image issues or my feelings of not belonging throughout childhood. maybe this is my way of avoiding distraction so i can be present with the people around me. aesthetics-wise, i love dressing like a fun auntie sometimes (typically in spring/summer) & other times i want to lean more masc with edgy streetwear looks (fall/winter). unique prints are a must, rich earth & jewel tones, classic & sturdy footwear, handcrafted jewelry with a story behind it. idk how to weave together these competing energies of warmth & playfulness, stifled rebellion & hesitant individuality. still trying to identify what i like & give myself space to explore & express that!

@capyboppy

May 9, 2024

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ENDING SENTENCES WITH ELLIPSES LIKE A BOOMER

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Never changing

My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌

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