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1. it reminds you why youâre on this path and the light and hope that awaits you on the other side
2. it feels more satisfying than the, â5 tips to get over someoneâ articles due to the inexhaustible content
3. you could text him.. or you could seek out that dopamine hit youâll get when you read a random reddit comment from 5 years ago that validates you in just the right ways and renews your strength for just that little bit longer! no depressive crashes here
4. again.. the VALIDATION. there is nothing new under the sun and you will get through this
5. the horror stories will help you appreciate that things arenât worse than they are <3
6. youâre basically playing therapist and detective, stitching together overarching narratives you may have missed while in the thick of it, psychoanalyzing the reasons for this breakdown, and most importantly realizing just how needful this move was for both parties. it all helps in bringing a sense of peace
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Apr 22, 2024
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i think what helps/is âbestâ depends on the breakup and the timeline.
if itâs like, three months and your main approach is still distraction that may make it harder in the long run. but in the first few weeks i think itâs okay to just distract yourself! i also think what is helpful is a mix of distractions. so maybe at the worst moments watch a sitcom, but at other times it may be helpful to read or watch media about heartbreak.
itâs nice to feel seen / see how others get thru it, even fictionally. i love to watch fleabag. 10 love poems and a song of despair and crush are two beautiful poetry collections.
a small âgirlsâ/friends night at home can be nice because it will be both fun and youâll get an opportunity to talk things through with friends. + therapy is always another talking option, both in the cases of if the relationship wasnât the best or if youâre just having a really hard time (which is valid!)
one of my heartbreaks was sorta a similar situation to yours (she got with the person she told me not to worry about right after!) so i want to say 1) i know the feeling sucks and iâm so sorry! and 2) itâs totally possible to get through this moment, and you will â€ïžâđ©č
i also wrote some advice on working thru heartbreak a while back! đ©č space, music, journaling, hobbies https://www.pi.fyi/rec/clwha3jpj02x510qsyswdwxjg
Aug 8, 2024
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for me it has been helpful to frame it as getting through heartbreak rather than over - iâve felt it is more of a journey rather than having an identifiable threshold or fixed point of being âoverâ the person. so - these are my main recommendations for things to do to get through the heartbreak:
this isnât true for everyone, but for me and most people i know, one of the worst things for processing is being around the person a bit right afterâitâs like making your emotional process and brain not be on the same pageâso space is probably the #1 thing i recommend as being useful to fully processing that youâre not together romantically.
music (also films/shows too) can help you feel seen and understoodâheartbreak is a unique type of hurt. i have like 3-4 playlists from different heartbreaks i have been thru lol!
journaling, to process your emotions solo, though sometimes adding a therapist is needed!
hobbies (solo or with friends) so you can find ways to do positive & engaging things in your increased spare time! spend some extra time being in love with yourself. â€ïžâđ©č
source: my personal misfortunes, trials, & tribulations in love
May 22, 2024
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thereâs so many different things going through your mind when a breakup happens and i donât think thereâs this one thing that will make it go away faster, but you can try focusing on yourself and things you like...you can find new hobbies, new friends, new places!
Cause yeah, youâre single now and it kinda sucks but it wont suck forever lol
idk what im saying, but bottom line is it gets better the more you put love towards yourself instead of them, youâll realize how much more you deserve.
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Apr 9, 2025
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for like 5 minutes, it helps, promise! you can wash ur hands right after and youâll find it wasnât the end of the world when you got a little dirty for those 5 minutes, as uncomfortable as it was. and for all the discomfort, your brain switched off and you could just be with the old, familiar sensations of your youth. get lost in it!
Apr 23, 2024
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youâre familiar with hellmannâs, youâve obsessed over kewpie but have you tried dutch mayo? i truly believe it would sway the staunchest of haterâs hearts into the loving arms of mayonnaise. so tangy, so sweet, so delicious. like i would have it as the sole condiment on my fries type good!
calvé is my go-to brand! zaanse & remia are other well known brands!
Apr 22, 2024
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i could never understand why i lacked the tools to distance myself from people who hurt me and kept hurting me. iâd always go back, iâd always âforgive,â and iâd always fawn (try and be better because itâs obviously my fault i wasnât perfect, duh.) .
there has been a recent shift in my life where i will feel physically angry when iâm subjected to mistreatment. sometimes iâll put it aside in favor of my fears but sometimes i feel it and let it be.. and when i do, i find i have the power to uphold simple boundaries that protect me from the mistreatment. itâs the darndest thing (would you believe it if i said iâm black?)
Apr 24, 2024